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I remember that first feeling of when my ex broke up with me. How it automatically made me have to face my insecurities. When you're in a routine of proving everything to make a person see your worth it's easy to feel abandoned. If the foundation of your love in the relationship is you proving yourself then that's not love. When I got that first text back and that message it was that sight of relief "huh I know I'm that girl no ex gets over me".
You don't even want the man you need that validation that you'll even stay in an "on and off again" relationship, situationship etc... Your basically allowing someone to go out take a poop and came back home for you to wipe it, but your so happy their back to pick you out o do it. Why let someone come back again and again to hurt you.
No changes just good conversations and promises and you are back to the same problems. It has nothing to do with what's in between your legs, how good you love him, or how you're the one.
You're just a pit stop on his way to the next relationship because he can't heal on his own properly. Letting a man keep coming back in your life playing the same games is nothing to be proud of. Sometimes they even come back just to humble you because you are doing well in life. After all these years ask your self "Have you found the worth you were looking for being with him?" You will not find your worth through dating a man but when you try they will have you at their feet constantly centering your world around them. Your worth comes from God. He died for you knowing you were worth his own son. He never changed his mind or went back and forth on that decision. God is the same yesterday and today and forever which means his love never changes. Heal done what made you think as a child that love was
inconsistent and based on my performance. For me it was when I did get I got loved but when I didn't align with others expectations I didn't receive love.
This taught me when someone rejected me that there was something wrong with me and I had to change and prove to get people to like me again to keep the house calm. This left me with a wound wanting to find ways to be chosen and performing to get it. So look back at where it all started to heal then allow your self to accept Gods love for you.
If you've never accepted Christ as your Savior and feel led to, I invite you now to open your heart to Him. Ask Jesus to come into your life, forgive your sins, and be your Lord and
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Many people often find themselves trapped in the cycle of "on and off" relationships, mistaking repeated breakups and reconciliations as signs of true love. However, as the author insightfully points out, this pattern is usually fueled by a need for validation and fear of being alone rather than genuine care or commitment. It's important to understand that when a partner keeps coming back without meaningful change, it often reveals their unresolved issues rather than their love for you. This cycle creates a false sense of self-worth, making you feel like "that girl no ex gets over," but in reality, it's a pit stop for someone who hasn't healed emotionally. Comparing your value and identity to how a partner treats you can leave lasting wounds. This kind of inconsistency teaches us from a young age to link love with performance, leading to incessant efforts to prove ourselves worthy, which is emotionally exhausting and ultimately unfulfilling. The path to healing begins with recognizing that your worth does not depend on anyone else’s approval or validation, especially not that of a partner who plays games with your emotions. As the post emphasizes, true self-worth is rooted in the unchanging love of God — who offers acceptance without conditions, unlike human relationships. God's steadfast love provides a foundation for healing the childhood wounds caused by feelings of rejection and conditional affection. If you feel stuck in such relationship patterns, take time to reflect on your personal story about where these beliefs about love started. Are you still chasing love that requires proof and competition? Look to heal those deep wounds by accepting unconditional love — whether through faith or self-compassion. This healing journey empowers you to break free from toxic cycles and embrace healthier relationships or fulfilling singleness. In addition, understanding that men also experience insecurity and loneliness after breakups helps reframe why they might come back repeatedly—not necessarily out of love, but seeking their own comfort. Rather than competing with exes or trying to be the "one that never gets left," focus on cultivating your own stability and confidence. Remember, letting someone repeatedly "come back to hurt you" is not a testament to your strength but a sign to prioritize self-love and boundaries. Only then can you truly discover the worth you deserve, which is not contingent upon another’s inconsistent affection but grounded in your own inherent value and, for many, in divine love. If you haven't yet embraced a spiritual journey, inviting Christ into your life can be a transformative step toward healing and finding unwavering love and acceptance. This is a personal choice, but many find that faith becomes a wellspring of hope and restoration on their path out of toxic relationship cycles.