DEAR ME, I'M SORRY THAT I TRIED SO DESPERATELY TO

I've found that many of us push ourselves to support and fix others during their difficult times, often at the expense of our own well-being. It’s a common pitfall to believe that by helping others heal, we somehow neglect our own wounds. From my experience, acknowledging this imbalance early can be a turning point. When you focus so intensely on fixing others, your inner struggles might go unnoticed. I remember feeling exhausted and emotionally shaky because I didn’t allow myself the necessary time to process my own pain. It felt almost selfish to pause and give myself space, but in reality, self-healing is crucial for sustaining long-term resilience. One practical approach I found helpful involves setting boundaries about when and how I support others. This creates healthy space for my own healing while still being there for friends and family. Also, journaling daily became a form of acknowledging my shaky hands and giving myself permission to heal at my own pace. Remember, self-care is not selfish. It’s a foundation that strengthens your ability to be truly present and helpful to others. If you’ve struggled like me, give yourself grace and time—you deserve to heal just as much as anyone else.