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Why end the relationship? What is the cause?

Ep.1 The beginning of a story that is not thought to happen to itself. 🥹

We and our ex have been dating since school.

Over the years, relationships have been like normal couples, some quarrels, some quarrels, some breakups, but never really breaking up, finally adjusting to each other every time, and even more love.

Time passed until the seventh year, which many people like to call the "Philosopher's Year," but we still shook hands through it.

When they get to work, they have less time, they don't see each other as often as they do in school, but we still talk every day and always find time to see each other.

Until the COVID came in, the company we worked at that time couldn't go on, so we had more time to stay at our girlfriend's house, travel, live together, and at that time my girlfriend was unemployed, and it became the most time we were together.

And during a very good relationship...

So good that we decided to find a job in the same province as him and move closer.

We started looking seriously at the future together.

We work together, save money, buy cars, and most of them use cars, but we pay half of them. 😂

Everything looks perfect.

Both adults started talking to each other because they had been together for a long time. They all thought they wanted everything to take shape. The future was planned roughly what the next few years would do.

And then, if someone asks, "Do you think this person is the one who will get married?"

We would say "yes" without thinking.

Our daily lives are simple, working, collecting money and finding time to hang out.

We have a gang of friends who like to hang out regularly, most of them take their girlfriends with us. Couple trip feed. It's fun.

Until one day...

We invited a close friend to travel with our gang.

At that time, friends were single. We normally had a lot of discussions. It was called that we talked a lot more than usual. We just thought that we wanted to invite them to travel together. Fear of lonely friends because they are very close friends. 💗

Many trips ago, if we didn't find the right bedroom, we slept in the same room as us, booking more extra beds because we were very trusting.

If you read it here, a lot of people should start guessing about it... 😂

But to say, it didn't happen just one trip. We toured together a lot of times.

Until the last trip of the group... a trip that made us and our friends start to notice something, but nobody says anything.

Something that I thought I might think a lot of.

But the more you look, the more you think... the more weird it feels, and the weirder it gets.

Until after returning from the trip, our friends stayed with us, and we started catching some pontoons.

And it's the beginning of the whole thing...

Ep.2 will tell you what we notice and why we begin to doubt the relationship of our "boyfriend" and his "best friend."

# Lemon 8 invites # Life problems # Relationship narrative # Love, relationships # Marriage problems

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