this is gonna be a very hot take..

yes yes, there’s downfalls to being unattractive of course, but I’ve found being conventionally attractive is so much worse then being viewed as unattractive. when I was unattractive, got bullied, etc, of course it made me sad, but I didn’t have as many issues as I do now. becoming conventionally attractive has made me even sadder, women tend to love putting down pretty women I’ve noticed, they’ll judge for the simple fact that your pretty! it’s also impossible to know if a man actually like you for you! most men just want to do sexual stuff with you, or date you because your attractive and have you as a trophy. I see it too much. this has ruined my mindset of wanting a relationship ever 😭 I have no desire to be in one anymore (not just for this reason ofc.) and it’s also very hard finding woman that want to be friends! they always assume I have horrible personality traits and it’s so annoying 😭 don’t get me wrong it’s nice being pretty, but my mental health and confidence was way better when I wasn’t 😂!!

🍓this is just my opinion from someone on both sides ! as humans we can never be happy is what I’m gathering 😂

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2025/3/22 Edited to

... Read moreThe concept of beauty is subjective, yet societal pressures create a universal narrative that often overlooks the complexities faced by those who are considered attractive. Many individuals have shared experiences similar to the author's, highlighting feelings of isolation and superficial judgments. This phenomenon, often termed as 'the beauty paradox,' illustrates how being deemed attractive can lead to assumptions about one's personality, intelligence, and intentions. Studies indicate that attractive individuals might face increased scrutiny from their peers, leading to unhealthy relationships and self-image issues, as they struggle to find genuine connections devoid of ulterior motives. Furthermore, societal comparisons perpetuate the cycle of dissatisfaction, where beauty becomes a double-edged sword. As highlighted in various online discussions and articles, maintaining authenticity while navigating social circles defined by appearance can be incredibly tough. Engaging with communities that value authenticity over aesthetics, and sharing experiences, can provide support. It's crucial for individuals to embrace self-worth beyond physical beauty and cultivate friendships built on mutual respect and understanding. In an age where beauty standards are amplified by social media, fostering discussions around mental health and personal experiences can empower individuals to navigate the complexities of attraction and societal expectations.

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Girlllll I’ve felt the exact same!! It also sucks because whenever I try to explain how I feel it comes out sounding like vanity and then I get super insecure all over again! 😞 Where are all my supportive girlies?? They’re so hard to find nowadays

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Also, I have to ask, do you ever struggle with “living up to pretty standards”? Or am I crazy? I feel like after being labeled as the “pretty one” there’s an expectation to meet…? Like I have to STAY a certain pretty. I don’t know tho😭

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