I always have the fear of infertility in the back
So a little back story- I’m 24 years old and I had the joy of marrying the love of my life September ‘24. I feel as though even though we are ‘young’ we’re not THAT young. We have talked lots about having a family and recently even started discussing starting said family soon. Having a family was a conversation we had well before we ever got married because it’s a really big thing for us. I have a passion and desire to be a mother.
But before anyone says there’s plenty of time for family’s let me preface by saying I know that. But unfortunately there’s nothing I have been able to do to dampen that desire in my current place of life. I am finishing school- about to student teach in the fall and then I will have access to a full time job finally. And we have discussed starting trying to have a family after that point but I haven’t ever been able to shake the feeling that infertility might be stalking behind me ready to knock on my door the moment we start trying officially. I’ve mentioned this to a few people in my life and I’ve gotten the same response of oh it takes time and oh you’re still so young. But it’s something that since I was a little girl I’ve wanted to have. Wanted to be honored with. I know that it is all in Gods plan and timing. I trust His plan for our lives. However that unfortunately human part of me still fears.
Does anyone else have experience with this feeling? And is there anything that you were told or did that helped combat those feelings? I could really use some faith based support as since moving I don’t really have many people where I now live in my corner for support.
Thank you all in advance💛
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