Self Reminder📌
🌿 3 Jenis “Kaki Sembang” Yang Rasulullah SAW Paling Tidak Suka
1️⃣ Thartharun — golongan yang suka bercakap panjang lebar tanpa faedah.
Biasanya suka mencelah, menguasai perbualan, dan tidak memberi ruang orang lain bercakap.
2️⃣ Mutasyaddiqun — mereka yang bercakap dengan gaya memperlekeh atau merendahkan orang lain.
3️⃣ Mutafayhiqun — mereka yang bila bercakap, asyik cerita tentang diri sendiri, untuk tonjolkan diri lebih daripada orang lain.
🕋 Dalam sebuah hadis, Rasulullah SAW bersabda:
> أَبغَضَكُمْ إِليَّ وَأبْعَدَكُمْ مِني مَجْلساً يَومَ القِيامةِ: الثَّرْثَارونَ، والـمُتَشَدِّقُونَ، وَالـمُتَفَيْهِقُون
“Sesungguhnya orang yang paling aku benci dan paling jauh kedudukannya daripadaku pada hari Kiamat ialah orang yang paling banyak bercakap kosong, orang yang suka memperolok orang lain, dan orang yang sombong dalam percakapannya.”
— (Riwayat al-Tirmidzi)
💬 Pengajaran:
Jaga tutur kata, rendahkan ego bila bercakap, dan elakkan sembang kosong yang tak membawa manfaat. Kadang, diam itu lebih berharga daripada seribu kata yang sia-sia. 🤍
Kredit: Dr. Kamilin Jamilin
Reflecting on the three types of talkers mentioned — Thartharun, Mutasyaddiqun, and Mutafayhiqun — it becomes clear how essential mindful communication is in our daily interactions. From personal experience, I've noticed that conversations dominated by unnecessary chatter often leave both parties feeling drained rather than enriched. Excessive talking without meaningful content (Thartharun) can overshadow quieter voices and prevent genuine exchanges. Similarly, speaking in a way that belittles others (Mutasyaddiqun) not only harms relationships but also damages one's own reputation. I once had a colleague who frequently mocked others during meetings, which led to a lack of trust and respect from the team. It highlighted how destructive such speech can be in building a positive environment. Lastly, those who focus conversations on self-praise (Mutafayhiqun) may seem confident, but it often distances listeners. I found that sharing personal achievements without humility sometimes alienated friends instead of connecting with them. The hadith from Rasulullah SAW serves as a powerful reminder that controlling our speech and practicing humility are key to fostering meaningful relationships. Sometimes, choosing silence over empty words can be more impactful and shows wisdom. Embracing this approach has helped me improve my communication, making conversations more respectful and valuable.
