Rules for my future daughters 💜
Rules for my future daughter(s) 💜
Devices
(Kindergarten) You can use my phone
(First-Second) iPad, but only yt kids and messenger (I have to approve the apps)
(Third-Fifth) iPad, you get more freedom tho
Yes, I am going to look at my kids apps to make sure everything is all right :)
Middle school: Phone (sixth/seventh), laptop (whenever you need it for school), and air pods/headphones (seventh/eighth)
You can post on social media when you get a car (Lemon8 you can post on as long as you don't show your face, the rest will have to wait)
You get screen time after you finish your chores
Rooms
You have your own room that you are responsible for (dust / vacuum once a week)
You are allowed to have food as long as you clean up your mess and I don't see any ants
You can't slam any doors when you are mad there's a reason for this (the door will start to crack)
Hair
You can cut as short as you want or you can grow it out
(This depends on your hair type) but you have to brush it at least every two or three days or it's getting braided
(Once again this depends on the hair type because I have 3b/3c hair so it's a bit different) but you can straighten it once a year, no more
If you want to dye it, you can choose any color but it's going to be temporary, no bleach
Dinner
No phones/iPads at the dinner table
You have to try foods, you don't have to like it, you don't have to eat it, but you have to at least try it
We will have "fancy" dinner every Thursday or maybe Sunday cos it teaches proper etiquette at the dinner table
Of course there will be occasional takeout
And there will be some days when I just don't feel like cooking so you can heat up whatever you want, eat or get eaten
General
No cursing (I understand it slips out sometimes but you're not just going to drop an f-bomb in the middle of a sentence and act like nothing happened)
Yes you can have sleepovers they are so much fun! I just need to know the parent(s) and the kid(s) first (:
We will have family activities probably every other weekend but no you do not have to participate at all, unless it is smth we have already reserved
You can have three mental health days every year (stay home from school) but you can't be on screens at all
You can dress however you want at school. As long as you don't have anything hanging out it's fine, I can handle it with the school, they only say that because it distracts grown men 🙄
No you do not have to buy period products for yourself you didn't ask for this, I will buy them for you 💜
And yes there will be just everyday chores (like smaller chores) that go with your other chores, like making your bed, brushing your hair, stuff like that
I have my snacks and you have your snacks
You can hang out with whoever you want, as long as they're not hurting you or others with their words/actions
Tell me if there's anyth I missed! ik this is alot lol...Do you think I will be a strict parent? #parenting #strictparent#daughters
As a parent aiming to raise responsible and confident daughters, setting clear and consistent rules is vital. From my own experience, establishing structured guidelines early on regarding technology use can significantly help manage screen time and ensure online safety. For example, introducing phones or tablets only at appropriate ages and approving apps before use helps monitor content exposure while allowing gradual independence. Assigning manageable daily chores not only teaches responsibility but also builds self-discipline. I found that limiting chores to two per day during elementary years keeps them age-appropriate without overwhelming children, and linking screen time to chore completion serves as an effective motivation. Having personal spaces, like their own room to maintain, empowers children to take ownership of their environment. Cleaning routines such as weekly dusting or vacuuming can be taught gently and turned into bonding activities. Regarding appearance, flexibility is important. Encouraging kids to cut or style their hair as they like supports individuality, but setting guidelines like brushing frequency or limiting chemical treatments protects hair health. Allowing temporary hair dye options without bleach was a practical compromise I embraced to nourish creativity safely. Dinner etiquette plays a crucial role in social development. Keeping dinner screen-free promotes family interaction and modeling polite behavior. Trying new foods, even without liking them, broadens palate and reduces pickiness. Implementing mental health days acknowledges emotional wellbeing, fostering trust that it’s okay to take breaks for self-care. However, restricting screen use during these days encourages engagement in alternative restorative activities. Open communication about friendships and acceptable behavior ensures children learn boundaries without feeling controlled. Trusting them to choose friends wisely while being vigilant against harmful influences is a delicate balance I continue to navigate. In summary, parenting with a blend of firm rules and empathetic flexibility cultivates a supportive environment. These “rules” are not just boundaries but tools for teaching independence, respect, and responsibility, all critical for nurturing healthy daughters ready to thrive in the world.
What rules will you have for your boys?