From my experience, the process of healing is rarely straightforward. While many expect healing to bring peace and gentleness, I found that it can also make a person meaner—not in a negative sense, but as a form of self-preservation and strength. After going through challenging emotional times, I noticed I became firmer with my boundaries and less tolerant of behaviors that previously hurt me. This 'meaner' side is actually a protective mechanism that helps one avoid being taken advantage of. It’s about developing resilience and a tougher skin, which is essential for long-term emotional well-being. This transformation can be empowering. It's important to acknowledge that healing is not just about returning to who you were before but about evolving into a stronger version of yourself. The phrase 'healed me is meaner' resonates because it captures the complexity of post-healing growth—where softness and strength coexist. Sharing this perspective can help others accept their post-healing changes without guilt, recognizing that becoming 'meaner' is sometimes necessary to maintain one's peace and protect oneself in the future.