I am constantly thinking about what my kids need to know before they leave our home and go into the world. The foundation needs to be strong right? They need to know what to fall back on when things seem hard or confusing, so let’s start here. The 12 virtues that pretty much cover it 😉
... Read moreIt's a big world out there, isn't it? As a parent, I often find myself wondering what truly matters most for my children to carry with them. Beyond academics and skills, it’s those foundational values, those virtues, that really shape who they become. I believe instilling these early is like giving them a compass for life, helping them navigate challenges and build strong character. It's not always easy, but it's incredibly rewarding.
I've been focusing on what I call the "12 Biblical Virtues" – not just as abstract ideas, but as practical tools for daily living. Let me share a bit about what each means to me and how I try to weave them into our family life.
Love: This isn't just a feeling; it's an action. For us, it means showing compassion, sharing our blessings, and always remembering to treat others as we'd want to be treated. We talk about loving our neighbors, even when they're different from us.
Faith: It's about trusting in something bigger than ourselves and having belief even when we can't see the outcome. I encourage my kids to have faith in their abilities and in a loving God, especially when things feel uncertain.
Hope: This virtue is so powerful! It’s the belief that good things can happen, and that even in tough times, there's always a reason to keep going. We practice hope by looking for the silver lining and believing in a brighter tomorrow.
Humility: This is a big one. It’s about understanding our own strengths and weaknesses, admitting when we're wrong, and not thinking we're better than anyone else. I try to model this by apologizing when I make mistakes and celebrating others' successes.
Forgiveness: Oh, how essential this is! Learning to let go of grudges and offer grace, both to others and to ourselves. When siblings argue, we talk about saying "I'm sorry" and truly meaning it, and then moving forward.
Patience: In our fast-paced world, patience feels like a superpower! It’s about waiting calmly, understanding that not everything happens instantly. We work on this during long car rides or when waiting for a turn during a game.
Kindness: Such a simple yet profound virtue. It's about being gentle, thoughtful, and considerate in our words and actions. We make a point of doing random acts of kindness, like leaving a nice note for a neighbor or helping with chores without being asked.
Wisdom: This isn't just about being smart, but about making good choices and applying what we know rightly. We discuss consequences together, and I try to guide them in making thoughtful decisions, rather than just reacting.
Self-Control: This helps so much with managing emotions and impulses. It's about pausing before reacting, thinking before speaking. We practice this by taking deep breaths when frustrated or choosing healthy snacks over constant treats.
Gratitude: Finding joy in the everyday blessings, big and small. We have a daily "gratitude moment" where everyone shares one thing they're thankful for. It shifts our perspective entirely!
Justice: Standing up for what's right, ensuring fairness for everyone, especially those who might not have a voice. We talk about treating everyone fairly, regardless of differences, and speaking up if we see something unjust happening.
Courage: Being brave, not just physically, but also mentally and emotionally. It's about trying new things, admitting fears, and doing the right thing even when it's hard. We celebrate small acts of courage, like trying a new food or speaking up in class.
Teaching these virtues is an ongoing journey, filled with learning moments for all of us. But seeing my children grow into compassionate, resilient, and thoughtful individuals makes every effort worthwhile. It truly lays a strong foundation for their lives.