7 weird ways to stop resentment, but lighten your heart

Sometimes we don't really want revenge.

We just want the other person to know how much they hurt us.

But the more you think, the most tired person is us.

Let's use these 7 methods to slowly get yourself back.

1. Name the "revenge character" in the head.

When an idea shows up, let's give it a name, like,

"The manager of justice."

Or "returning scene writer."

And say to it,

"Thank you for trying to protect me, but today I choose peace."

Naming helps us to see that resentment is just one idea, not our entire identity.

2. Submit your resignation from the position of "guilty guard."

Write a short paper saying,

"From today, I resign from my duty to remember who did what to me."

We don't have to watch anyone's guilt for life because that duty doesn't improve our lives.

3. Change the grudge to "rent space in the head."

Ask yourself,

"What does this person pay us to be in his head for free every day?"

If the answer is not to give anything

Let's determine if he has five minutes in our heads a day.

Time is up. Go back and do what's important to your life.

4. Write a new ending for the same story.

Instead of ending the story with a picture of us losing.

Try rewriting the ending as

"I got through this."

"I know more people."

"I'm better at defending myself."

We can't change the past, but we can change what it means to our lives.

5. Make a "Return Ceremony of Non-ours"

Write down what the other person left us, such as

Anger

Regret.

Distressed feelings

Distrust

Then write under the paper that

"These are not my identity. I give them back here."

And fold it, tear it, or discard it as a sign of putting it down.

6. Use the "win with a better life" rule.

Every time you want to give it back, change that power to do something that makes life better.

Exercise walk

Keep the money.

Learn new skills.

Take care of the shape.

Room arrangement

Get the job done.

The quietest return is not to let that ruin our future.

7. Forgive without going back to

Forgiveness is not recognition that the other person did it right.

Not forgetting.

And not going back as close as it was.

We can forgive in our hearts and set boundaries and walk out.

Some of us can forgive.

But no need to allow it back into life.

✨ Remember that.

Giving up resentment doesn't mean we're weak.

But it is to stop paying life force to the people who hurt us.

One day we may still remember

But don't feel like taking it back anymore.

And that day is the day we're really free. 🤍

# Stop grudging # Let go # Love yourself # Remedy the mind # Develop yourself# Mind health # Working age # Lemon8TH