Those in glass house they shouldn’t throw stones
Watch out for abusers who weaponize tone-policing and gaslighting to twist reality when they’ve hurt you—whether on purpose or for their own gain.
Let’s be real: "crashing out" is sometimes a normal human response to a profound wrong, and any of us are capable of both hurting others and being hurt.
Don't let anyone invalidate your feelings. If someone is determined to misunderstand you, protect your peace and walk away from that toxic dynamic. Tell the truth, say the quiet part out loud, hold yourself and others accountable, and move with maturity. It’s a tough balance, but you can do all four at once!
Xoxo!
In my experience, dealing with toxic people who use manipulative tactics like tone-policing and gaslighting can be incredibly draining. These behaviors twist reality, making you question your own feelings and perceptions. I've found it essential to first acknowledge my emotions as valid, even when others try to minimize or invalidate them. One important step is learning that "crashing out" or feeling overwhelmed is a natural response to being deeply hurt—it doesn't make you weak. Everyone can hurt others and also be hurt; this awareness helps cultivate self-compassion. Protecting your peace means setting firm boundaries. When someone repeatedly refuses to understand or respects your feelings, it's okay to walk away from that toxic dynamic. Holding yourself and others accountable with honesty and maturity develops healthier relationships and personal growth. Sharing my journey has helped me move forward with clarity and strength. Remember, you deserve kindness—from yourself and others. Don’t be afraid to tell the truth and prioritize your well-being over keeping peace with toxic people. It’s a tough balance, but embracing this approach gives you the power to heal and thrive.
