so who's my daddy?
after a flippant remark that I didn't look like anyone in my family, I went to visit my mom and relayed the comment. Her response was outrageous, she gave me some story that a woman with the same last name, mind we don't have a common one, was there giving birth to boy/girl twins. she kept this up all weekend to the point I said I was getting a DNA test. she told me I should. well I did and sadly she's my mother but my father of 44 years isn't my biological father. it's been narrowed down to two brothers one died the year I was born, the other is still alive and shockingly he has boy/girl twins! I've sent Facebook messages, emails and real letters to no response. I'm flabbergasted not to even get a reply. I never said hey your so and so to me, just simply we matched as family and I'd like to know my origins. I want nothing from you and have my own family. nothing but crickets. mom is still in denial and I've cut her out of my life. whole thing is just sad. I didn't cause this, they did.
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