Read this if you are dating

Helu zesties! 🍋

Writing this for my girlies but guys you should read it too :3

These two sounds pretty close doesn’t it?

💬 Whats the difference? 💬

Being pursued 🚶‍♂️🚶‍♀️

The energy is mutual between the both of you. You are genuinely connecting and getting to know each other. You are both evaluating if you are a good fit for each other.

Being chased 🚶‍♀️🏃‍♂️

It is usually one sided and love bomb-ish. They put you on a pedestal without truly getting to know you first. All that because you look pretty.

Based on my own experience… being chased feels good at first ofc.

And me being naive, I didn’t really know the difference.

But the truth is.. Its so important to know this:

Men that “chase” usually disappear as fast too. They love the thrill of chasing, but to keep you around, to maintain a relationship with you and to show up as a man you deserve, it eventually gets too much for them. AND thats when they withdraw, they say that you want too much, they suddenly become so busy and can barely return your texts, they get mad at you being you…

So girlies… don’t settle on someone that “chased” you, evaluate if he sees you for who you are, evaluate if there is truly a connection and compatibility there.

It took me awhile to learn this.

My relationships that lasted the longest..? We both truly enjoyed keeping each others company. And I usually was able to talk to them about everything and nothing, the good and the bad - even if it was just a longterm situationship.

These short burst of interests all because of looks or chemistry? It usually crash fast.

They will over invest in you at the start and the convo will “seem” good but are you really connecting?

Always ask the hard questions! Pace the connection, consistency, slow burn over intensity.

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EG.

How do you handle conflicts in relationships

How were your dynamics in your past relationships

What does an ideal relationship look like to you?

What did you learn from your last relationship?

What does a relationship mean to you? (Someone once told me its just to have fun tgt, but u gotta think long term man, choose someone that wants marriage as the end goal)

Observe their habits and lifestyle before deciding on being in a relationship with them.

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Tdlr;

Chasing is running after someone who’s walking away.

Pursuing is walking beside someone who’s matching your stride.

Guys if yall are reading this too, remember to evaluate if the girl is actually compatible with you too, I know way too many guys just "settle" but they don't love that woman.. and end up just wasting eachothers time.

Xoxo,

Tiny

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You can use this list to evaluate if yall are compatible~

7 Silent signs of incompatibility

#GirlTalk #girlgrowth #MyPOV #Relationship101 #psychologynotes

2025/12/15 Edited to

... Read moreFrom my own journey, I realized that understanding the distinction between being pursued and being chased has transformed how I approach relationships. Being pursued feels balanced, like walking side by side, where both people match each other's pace and genuinely connect on deeper levels beyond just appearances. On the other hand, being chased often feels one-sided and intense at first. That rush of attention can be flattering, but it's usually short-lived and driven by infatuation rather than true compatibility. Many times, those who chase tend to fade away when the initial excitement wears off, leaving one feeling confused and hurt. To truly evaluate if someone is worth your time, I found it helpful to ask real, tough questions early on: How do they handle conflict? What do they value in relationships? Are their lifestyle and habits compatible with mine? These conversations can reveal much more than surface-level chemistry. Also, observing how someone treats you consistently matters more than fleeting grand gestures. The best relationships I've had were with partners who communicated openly, shared laughs and serious talks, and made the effort to truly understand me. If you’re dating, remember: connection takes time. Don’t rush into anything just because someone is chasing you. Look for mutual respect, compatibility, and consistent actions that show they value you for who you are. This mindset has helped me avoid heartache and build relationships based on genuine partnership.

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