EX-COLLEAUE FROM HELL

So, let me tell you about this intern, my company hired at work. Her name is A, and for the first 6 months, she was amazing. We clicked right away—hanging out, chatting like old friends, the whole deal. But then something shifted when she got converted to full-time. It was like a switch flipped, and suddenly, I felt like I didn’t even exist to her.

At first, I thought it was just a phase. Maybe she was busy settling into her new role or something. But as the weeks went by, I noticed she stopped talking to me. It was weird because we used to share everything our lives, our thoughts but now it felt like I was just a ghost in the office. I’d hear about her life from other colleagues instead of her.

One day, I was in the break room when she started acting really strange. She pulled out her phone and showed a picture of her friend—let’s call her F. She asked another colleague what they thought of F. “Not bad, I guess,” they replied. Then A dropped this bomb: “Did you know she had plastic surgery?”

B looked surprised and said, “Oh, I can’t tell.” Then A showed the before-and-after pictures and asked again, “What do you think?” B hesitated, saying, “Um... I think before was nicer.” And A lit up, “RIGHT? I KNEW IT! She was so pretty before! Now she looks... um, nice but weird.”

I was standing there thinking, “Wow, this is a lot.” And then C chimed in, asking what was so exciting. A showed them the after pic, and C was confused, asking if they were looking at the same person or if they were sisters. A laughed and said, “My friend did plastic surgery! That’s why her face looks so weird now.”

C tried to be nice, saying B was still pretty, but A insisted, “No way! She looked better before!” It felt so judgmental; I was cringing a bit.

Then A switched topics and started showing off pictures of her ex-boyfriends. “They’re cute, right?” she asked. B and C were all intrigued, asking if they were single. A joked that they had high standards but maybe they’d consider B and C since they were Korean. They laughed it off.

But here’s the kicker: while all this was happening, I was just standing there, feeling invisible. When lunch break rolled around and I walked past A in the pantry, she completely ignored me. But as soon as B showed up, they were laughing together like nothing had changed. It stung a little—I couldn’t figure out why she was treating me like this.

A few months later, I introduced my friend D to the team because we had an opening. Suddenly, A was all over D, asking how we knew each other and digging for details. And then she casually mentioned that she thought I was “boring” and “not fun to be with and she preferred hanging out with girls who likes staying out late not a good girl who after work goes home.” Like, seriously? After 10 months of bonding? What happened?😨

Things got even weirder when A decided to play detective and started snooping around for resumes on the company computer. She couldn’t find mine or D’s and asked D why that was. D was like, “Uh, why do you want to see our resumes?” And A just shrugged it off, saying she was curious.

Then she turned to D and asked why she was friends with me. D said something nice like I’m fun, chill, and cool, but A didn’t seem impressed at all. It felt like she was trying to undermine our friendship or something.

Honestly, it’s been such a rollercoaster watching A change from someone I thought was a friend into someone who barely acknowledges me anymore. I don’t know what happened along the way, but it’s left me feeling pretty confused about our whole dynamic.

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#GirlTalk #workplaceculture #workplacebullying #workplacedrama #colleagueatwork

6 days agoEdited to

... Read moreDealing with a colleague who dramatically changes their behavior can be challenging and emotionally draining. From personal experience, such shifts often stem from complex workplace dynamics and insecurities rather than a single event. It’s important to recognize that these changes can affect your mental well-being and work productivity. When an intern transitions to a full-time role, the power dynamics subtly shift. The new responsibilities and pressures they face might cause them to act differently toward former peers. Observing this firsthand, I found that maintaining professionalism despite personal feelings is key to preserving a healthy work environment. In situations where a colleague excludes or subtly undermines you, documenting interactions helps keep perspective and protects you if conflict escalates. I’ve also learned that seeking support from trusted teammates or mentors can provide valuable advice and emotional relief. Moreover, managing your own boundaries is essential. If a colleague’s behavior becomes toxic—such as gossiping about others’ appearances or showing hostility—it’s crucial to limit engagement and focus on your own performance and well-being. Sometimes, addressing the issue directly with the individual or through HR channels might be necessary if the conduct affects the workplace atmosphere. Lastly, understanding that not all friendships survive workplace changes can prepare you emotionally. It’s normal to feel confused or hurt when a close connection fades, but redirecting your energy toward positive relationships and personal growth can turn the experience into a lesson in resilience and self-respect.

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you are not over sensitive. I was like u when i was younger but now i know. Trust your gut and start to plan ...

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