When a daddy metalhead and a mommy goth...
She's a corporate goth witch, I'm a neopagan metalhead. We have been together for 23 years, married for 20. We have spent a long time melding our various styles into a cohesive amalgam. Here is a glimpse into the home of a pair of aging alts.
It’s amazing to look back on 23 years with my husband, a journey that’s seen us blend a corporate goth witch aesthetic with a neopagan metalhead vibe into something truly unique. When we first started decorating our space, it wasn't about following trends, but about creating a sanctuary that felt authentically *us*. We’ve collected so many treasures over the years, each piece telling a part of our story as aging alts. For example, our living room features a gothic-themed corner that’s a real conversation starter. You'll find a sturdy wooden shelf displaying our beloved skull and crow decorations – they’re not just spooky, they represent protection and wisdom for us. And, of course, no witchy home is complete without a decorative broom, which we've placed alongside a large black and white skull print. It’s all about infusing our personalities into every nook and cranny. We even have a beautiful illustration of five silhouetted witch figures dancing under a full moon, a nod to our pagan roots, surrounded by bare trees and a black cat, evoking that classic gothic theme we both adore. Our style isn’t just about making a statement; it’s about comfort and personal meaning. We love to add seasonal touches, like our vibrant, illuminated autumn leaf garland, which brings a cozy warmth, especially when paired with an ornate gold-framed oval mirror. It reflects our belief that even alternative spaces can be inviting and beautiful. Beyond the larger pieces, it’s the small details that truly bind our goth and metalhead styles. I’ve always loved finding unique items, like the decorative wooden box with delicate floral patterns. Next to it, you’ll see our hand-painted plaques featuring a gold pentagram and a spiral symbol – these are deeply personal and symbolic of our neopagan beliefs. And the copper cup holding small candles and feathers? It’s a little altar, a daily reminder of our spiritual path. This blend of 'under the witch gothic' elements with a classic metalhead sensibility is what makes our home feel so authentic. People often ask how we maintain our alternative appearance as we "age." For me, it's about evolving. While dramatic metalhead makeup might be reserved for concerts, I still love experimenting with dark, vampy lip gloss and a sharp eyeliner for everyday glam. It’s about adapting, not abandoning, our core style. And yes, tattoos and piercings are a huge part of our identity; we've cherished our visits to various tattoo and piercing shops over the years, each piece adding to our personal canvas. It’s a continuous journey of self-expression, proving that "goth mommy" and "metalhead daddy" can absolutely thrive and evolve through the decades, creating a style that’s truly their own. We're proof that different types of metalheads and goths can create harmony, not just in relationships, but in their living spaces too.
