Your life isn’t over…

I see so much misery in the chronic illness community.

And listen… I get it.

When you have multiple chronic illnesses stacked on top of each other, it can feel like life just keeps piling things on.

Doctor appointments. New diagnoses. ER trips. Flares. Medications. The mental load of managing a body that doesn’t always cooperate. Dealing with people or doctors who downplay our conditions and tell us it’s not that bad. I get it!

Trust me when I say this isn’t coming from someone sitting on the sidelines giving motivational speeches.

This is coming from someone who has been getting her ass kicked for the last three years. This is coming from someone who felt like she was being delivered to deaths door many times.

I don’t run my mouth about things I’ve never lived through. Because gross.

I speak from lived experience. And personally, if you haven’t lived it, keep your mouth shut. Because I truly do not care about opinions from people who have no clue what this life actually looks like.

And before anyone thinks this is a competition about who has it worse…it’s not. I’m simply showing you the reality I’m speaking from. Context matters.

My medical chart these days looks like this….

Cardiomyopathy.

Stage 3 kidney disease.

POTS.

hEDS.

MCAS.

SIBO.

IBS.

Fibromyalgia.

Osteoarthritis.

Pelvic floor dysfunction.

Lactose intolerance.

Perimenopause.

I think that’s the complete list, I can’t keep up anymore🤷🏻‍♀️

Yeah, life hasn’t exactly been handing out easy cards over here.

And yet… I’m happy. I laugh. I have joy.

Not because my life is perfect. Not because my health suddenly got better.

But because decades ago I learned something important. How to rebuild.

At this point I’ve rebuilt myself so many times that I’m actually pretty good at it.

Ten years ago I started intentionally working on expanding my growth mindset. At the time, I had no idea how much that would matter later.

But it did.

Because when the last three years hit me like a freight train, that mindset became a lifeline.

Yeah, sometimes things that once worked stopped working. But dammit I kept trying. I kept searching for ways to help myself.

And here’s the part people don’t talk about enough. Chronic illness doesn’t just attack your body.

If you let it, it will start coming after your mind… your hope… and the way you see your future.

Some people stay stuck there. Sick or not, some people choose to stay in a victim mindset. They surrender to the illness and let it take everything from them.

Of course we’re going to get rocked and fall down. Chronic illness will absolutely do that.

But staying down forever really is a choice.

And before anyone gets upset, let me say this clearly…chronic illness is brutal. I’m not pretending otherwise.

But please believe me when I say, joy is still possible. Peace is still possible. A meaningful life is still possible.

But we have to fight for it.

Sometimes that means therapy. Sometimes that means changing the way we think. Sometimes it means advocating for better medical care.

Sometimes it means letting go of people, relationships, or beliefs that no longer serve us.

Sometimes it means grieving the life we thought we’d have so we can actually build the one we still can.

For me, a few things helped….

•I stopped waiting for life to be easy before allowing myself to have joy.

• I focus on what I can build instead of what I’ve lost.

• I protect my peace like it’s part of my treatment plan… because it literally is.

• I learned to quit things that were draining me, but I never quit on myself.

If you’re in the dark part right now, please hear me when I say this…I’ve been there.

And there really can be light again.

That tunnel doesn’t last forever as long as we keep intentioanlly moving.

Your life might look different than you imagined. Mine certainly does.

But different doesn’t mean empty. Different doesn’t mean joyless. And different definitely doesn’t mean your story is over.

Sometimes the strongest, most meaningful lives are the ones we rebuild from the ground up.

So if you’re in the thick of it right now… don’t give up.

Because the messy middle…the part where everything feels broken and uncertain…isn’t the end of your story.

It’s the construction zone.

And sometimes that’s exactly where the strongest version of you begins.

Sincerely,

Someone who actually gets it

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