Marry Your Dream Guy
#girlpov #lemon8challenge It's important to make a list of indispensable qualities in a partner that you crave. I made one in college after learning about this and it's soooo important. When you enter into a relationship you can refer to this check list and see how many, if any, things your partner has that you desire. My list was long and very specific and it took me 26 years to find him but we've been traveling side by side our entire lives....almost meeting...and then the day we did meet....I KNEW he was the guy I would marry. Nothing in life felt more RIGHT. The way he made me smile, feel inside, how much we had in common, how outgoing and smart he was...and he's a musician.....and now also a photographer...and I model for a living....so it's all came together beautifully. When I met him he was probably at the lowest point in his life and I was going through a lot as well and the moment I pulled up to his place on my pink moped I knew.....that moment our eyes locked and we both couldn't stop smiling.....that I had found my future husband. We got married in under a year ..had our first child together and then almost a decade later we fostered to adopt 3 more kiddos and now we have 5 kids ..making us a family of 7. Follow me for daily inspo. I keep it real. I show the good, bad and the ugly because life is meant to be a constant learning game, where we continuously grow and better ourselves and our lives ..and hopefully those around us as well ..so I try to show y'all my REAL life and not just the good stuff. You have to set intentions for your days, lives and relationships. Don't settle. You deserve to be the happiest you've ever been. xoxo
So, you've heard about making a list for your dream partner, but how do you actually do it effectively? It's more than just physical traits or a specific career. My personal list wasn't about superficial things; it was deeply focused on character, shared values, and most importantly, how someone made me *feel*. Think about what truly nourishes your soul and brings you peace. Do you crave a partner who is kind, ambitious, an excellent communicator, or someone who shares your love for adventure? Jot it all down! This isn't about creating an impossible ideal, but rather gaining crystal-clear clarity on your deepest desires. It's about recognizing what truly aligns with your spirit, so when that person comes along, you know in your gut they're the one. This intentionality helps you to truly "marry your dream" person, not just someone who is 'good enough'. When you're actively dating, this carefully crafted list becomes your invaluable inner compass. It empowers you to avoid wasting precious time and emotional energy on relationships that clearly won't fulfill you in the long run. Instead of simply "dating to date," you begin to "date to marry" – meaning, you're actively seeking a lifelong partner with whom to build a future, not just a temporary companion. This powerful intention shifts your entire perspective. You'll naturally gravitate towards conversations about future goals, core family values, and what a shared life truly looks like. Don't be afraid to ask those deeper questions early on; it's about finding someone whose life vision harmonizes beautifully with yours. And what about external factors, like an age gap, that sometimes come up in discussions about finding "the guy in your dream"? My journey taught me that true connection, the kind that leads to a lasting marriage, transcends simple numbers or societal expectations. When you're focused on core compatibility – things like shared values, mutual respect, unwavering support, and a genuine desire to grow together – external factors like an age difference often become secondary. What truly matters is a partner who champions your dreams, celebrates your successes, and stands by you through every challenge. Imagine finding someone with whom every moment, whether it's a quiet evening at home or an adventurous trip to a sandy beach (just like in some of our favorite memories!), feels just right. Someone who understands your passions, perhaps even shares a love for capturing memories through photography, just like my husband and I do. It's about that undeniable spark and profound connection that makes you feel completely seen and loved for exactly who you are, regardless of anything else. This intentional, purpose-driven approach to finding love helps you filter out the noise and focus on what truly builds a strong, joyful, and lasting foundation. It’s about being patient, trusting the process, and never compromising on your fundamental needs and desires for a partner. Your dream partner isn't just someone you *want*; they're someone who deeply aligns with your authentic self, ready to embark on life's incredible journey with you, creating beautiful memories and a family filled with boundless love. Keep believing, keep clarifying your intentions, and keep your heart wide open. Your soulmate is out there, waiting for you to recognize them.