I can talk big back, been there

Reflecting on my own journey through faith and belief systems has been a profound experience, especially as I navigated life within the church. Being someone who once embodied a strong presence—a ‘big back,’ so to speak—I understand the complexities that come with questioning and eventually deconstructing long-held religious beliefs. Writing and preparing for the preorder of my third book, "Empty the Pews Empty Their Pockets," has given me a platform to share not only my personal story but also the nuanced experiences of others who have undergone similar transformations. Deconstruction is not merely about leaving behind a set of religious practices; it’s about re-examining identity, community, and values. It forces you to confront challenging emotions and memories while also opening the door to a broader understanding of spirituality beyond institutional confines. Through this journey, I’ve come to appreciate the importance of sharing these experiences openly. For many, the process can be isolating, feeling like you must reconcile your past within rigid frameworks. But by discussing topics like faith, loss, and personal growth in candid ways—perhaps punctuated by moments like the annual reflections on significant days (#onthisday)—we foster empathy and support. Moreover, the themes in my book resonate widely given today’s increasing conversations around religion and personal belief systems. By embracing the deconstruction process, individuals can find a pathway toward authenticity and peace, even when it means rethinking foundational aspects of their upbringing. This journey also parallels other transformations in life, such as weight loss or tours of personal discovery, highlighting that change is multidimensional. I encourage readers and fellow travelers on similar paths not to shy away from these challenges. Instead, use them as opportunities to rebuild a faith or worldview that truly reflects who you are now. Sharing stories and connecting through social platforms with communities engaged in deconstruction can be incredibly healing and empowering.