could I reject him? Yes, yes I could. Do I want to?
No! I love him, I signed up for an intimate marriage, I signed up for a passionate marriage, I don’t want a roommate relationship!
Nobody does, or do they?
Marriage takes effort on both sides, and we both believe in a loving healthy passionate marriage, so rejection either emotional or physical shouldn’t be happening…
But men, great passion comes from great unity and closeness! It comes from kindness, loyalty, affection, teamwork, good communication! Do u know how dang hard we BOTH work on those things? Daily!
Want a great marriage? Talk to each other, prioritize each other, love each other, be committed, be fun, be positive, be helpful! And please keep dating each other! It’s not that dang hard… you literally chose your spouse over everyone else!
Plus it’s the best thing you can give your kids.. a loving, healthy, happy home foundation. That comes from your marriage.
Thoughts?
Maintaining passion and unity in a marriage isn’t always easy, but it’s incredibly rewarding. From my experience, the foundation is constant communication and a genuine desire to understand each other's needs and feelings. It goes beyond just spending time together; it’s about prioritizing your spouse even amidst busy schedules and challenges. One key insight I found is that kindness and affection shouldn't be reserved only for special occasions. Small gestures like a compliment, a loving touch, or even preparing a favorite meal can rekindle closeness. Equally important is teamwork—approaching problems as a united front rather than opponents. This creates a safe space where both partners feel valued and heard. Also, keeping the dating phase alive is crucial. Even after years together, surprising your partner with outings or thoughtful acts helps keep the spark alive. I realized that passion blossoms when both partners intentionally invest in their emotional and physical connection daily. I used to think rejection meant a problem in love, but now I see it can be a sign to pause and reconnect on deeper levels. Avoiding emotional or physical withdrawal takes effort but prevents the relationship from turning into a mere roommate scenario. Supporting each other positively and committing to openness builds loyalty and trust. Finally, the impact on children is profound. Growing up in a home filled with love and positivity shapes their understanding of relationships and emotional health. Ultimately, a passionate marriage isn’t just about intimacy—it's about building a lifelong partnership that uplifts the whole family.