I got up after laying in bed for a couple hours and went to the bathroom. As I was sitting there I started reflecting on how different this house feels now. Nothing has substantially changed but as the days went on I got used to this space. The newness wore off. I started to see the imperfections and the never ending dirty floors. I mostly associate it with to do lists & responsibilities. I had completely forgotten how it felt to be without my own safe haven - a spot where I was free to completely fall apart outside of the world view. I had forgotten the emotions I experienced in the first few months of being here. Then it hit me…. How similar relationships are to houses. How things change once you’ve been in them for a while and the new feel fades away. How the initial joy can be lost in the maintenance it takes to keep things afloat. How you can forget how you felt before you had it. How we start noticing imperfections that we were first oblivious to.

In both our homes & our relationships we have the ability to build it up or tear it down. You may even outgrow them but that doesn’t have to change the place it had in your heart or the memories you had within it. One day you will have your forever home and even the most mundane tasks to keep it in good shape will bring you happiness. And to those of you who have already found it… don’t be like me. Don’t forget. #homeiswheretheheartis #blogger #thoughts #relationship