The problem of marrying an aunt
It's about my mother in law.
The other day my parents-in-law came from a distance (it takes 12 hours to move by car) with a sudden visit without warning (I received a LINE of "I will bother you!" one day before the day I came here, and I did not ask if I would stay), I was told that I would stay after arriving here, long-term stay for one week
events of those few days.
Children are persistently hung by their husbands, and at the beginning it was "Daddy stop!," But it was really too persistent "You, stop!!" And the daughters said!
Whether the children (girls in the fourth and second grade of elementary school) were irritated to hear that remark to the husband,、、
My mother-in-law is a person who loves the idea that the father is the best in the family ➕ the old way of thinking (?).
When my mother-in-law heard that, she was a little grumpy!
My husband's persistent behavior didn't just start now, and even if I warned him, he would repeat it all the time, so I kept silent.
I was silently watching the situation without paying attention to the children even on the spot.
My idea is that if you are persistently chopped, even children will still get angry! I don't think the husband who set it up at the beginning is good,
At that time, it was a good opportunity to have my parents-in-law see me as usual! I thought it was silent
Then, two days later, my husband, my parents-in-law, and my children went out, and my mother-in-law said to the children (where my husband is not) "You!" and "I'll buy you too!"
Usually, in front of us, we say "◯ ◯ chan" in a cat stroking voice.
I have never said such a thing to my other grandchildren.
I couldn't go out with him at work.
The morning after my parents-in-law left, my daughter in the second grade told me with a sad face.
It was a shock when I heard it!
What!? Revenge? It became like that, but...
And speaking in a place where no one of the mother-in-law is, or say a little Kitanai,、、Or to say nasty,、、
Originally, my mother-in-law was a person who complained a lot about something,、、Eating out (we are often indebted to private shops) Even if you go to everyone, it is not delicious if it does not suit your mouth! There is nothing to eat! It is a person who says on the spot (remarks in the store! The staff can hear you), there is no delicacy,
Would you say such a thing to your grandchildren?
Since my husband doesn't know about it, I'm thinking of talking to him, but what would you do?
嫁姑問題は日本の家庭でよくあるテーマですが、今回のように突然の長期訪問は特にストレスが大きいですよね。私も以前、義理両親が予告なしで泊まりに来て、家の中が気まずい雰囲気になった経験があります。 家族間でも子供たちへの接し方一つで雰囲気は大きく変わります。旦那さんが子供たちにしつこくちょっかいを出すと、子供たちも反発してしまい、そのことで義理母が感情的になるのは理解できますが、子供へ「オマエ！」などの厳しい言葉は子供の心に響き、傷つける可能性が高いです。 嫁姑間の問題は昔ながらの価値観の違いが背景にあることも多いです。特に義理母が「お父さんが一番」という考えに固執している場合、子育てスタイルや家族のコミュニケーションで摩擦が起きやすくなります。 私の場合、義理母の発言や態度が子供に悪影響を与えそうだと感じたときは、夫と冷静に話し合う時間を設けました。夫には、直接子供から聞いた話を伝え、夫婦で協力して家族のルールや接し方を確認し合うことが重要だと思います。夫も自覚がない場合が多いので、伝え方には配慮が必要です。 また、義理親が来る前にルールをきちんと話すことや、訪問が長引く場合の対応策を夫婦間で決めておくことで、トラブルを未然に防ぐこともできます。 今回の投稿者さん のように、義理母の態度が悪化することは辛いですが、冷静に家族で話し合い、子供の心のケアを一番に考えることが解決の糸口になると思います。みなさんの経験もぜひ共有していただきたいです。