Should I tell him I’m not your retirement plan?
My dad’s never been good with money. He spent his whole life partying, bouncing from job to job, never put a penny away for retirement. I have savings, and own a small condo. Lately, he came out and said he plans to move in with me when he’s older because I’m the only one who’s got their life together. He even joked about me taking care of him like he took care of me as a kid.
The fact is that he barely supported me. My mom did all the parenting while he was mostly MIA. Now he expects me to let him move in and cover all his bills when he’s older. It makes me uncomfortable just thinking about it. I’m tempted to say it straight that I’m not his retirement plan. But would I be selfish to set that boundary? Is “family obligation” enough to make me take on a responsibility he never planned for himself?
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