Why Does My Autistic Daughter Carry A Can Opener?
I used to think Bella was just playing.
What I didn’t understand was that many autistic children use repetitive movements and sounds to help regulate their bodies and emotions.
The behavior I was trying to stop was actually helping her.
Sometimes the biggest shift happens when we stop asking, “How do I make it stop?” and start asking, “Why is it happening?”
💜 Until They Understood Why.
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From my experience as a parent of an autistic child, I've learned that behaviors often seen as unusual or disruptive actually serve a deeper purpose. For example, carrying a can opener might seem odd at first, but it often acts as a comforting sensory tool that helps children like Bella manage their emotions and sensory overload. Repetitive movements and tactile sensations are common coping mechanisms in autism. They provide a predictable, calming rhythm or feel, which helps regulate anxiety or overwhelm. Initially, I tried correcting these behaviors, telling Bella to stop tapping or leave the can opener alone. But these actions only caused frustration and confusion for both of us. The real breakthrough came when I shifted my perspective from trying to eliminate the behavior to understanding its cause. Asking 'Why is she doing this?' led me to recognize the importance of self-regulation for Bella’s well-being. It wasn’t about defiance but about finding ways to soothe herself. I now encourage her to keep the can opener if it helps her feel grounded. This small acceptance has made a big difference in her confidence and comfort in daily life. Sharing this has helped me connect with other parents and caregivers, reminding us all that understanding and patience make all the difference in our journeys with autism. If you’re navigating similar behaviors with your child or loved one, consider exploring what sensory tools or repetitive actions might be helping them cope. Supporting these needs can foster greater trust, reduce stress, and improve overall quality of life for everyone involved.
It’s very normal for a autistic child to do these things.. Some call it stemming, personally I call it “just leave them alone it’s normal for them.. “ I know this because I have a couple of autistic grandchildren..