My Top 10 Relationship Tips💕
My relationship with my boyfriend is the best one I’ve ever had, but it didn’t start out that way! We actually dated, broke up, and then got back together and let me tell you this time has been a complete 180 from before!💗 The following tips are things that I’ve noticed that were different this time around and improved our relationship.
1. Communication is KEY- This is one that sounds cliche but couldn’t have made a bigger impact on my relationship. Making sure to have open communication (even about small things) creates a base line of trust in the relationship that is so important and powerful.
2. Cherish the Little Moments - This one is big for me because some of my favorite memories that I’ve spent with my boyfriend have been the smallest, most meaningful things. For example, sitting outside on a nice night and just talking or going for a drive. Finding the beauty in those moments makes everyday feel special and allows you to appreciate your partner more.
3. Make Your Non-Negotiables Clear - This tip is the one that really changed everything for us. The first time around, I found myself being super understanding and accommodating to the point where I would let things ( non-communication, failing to make time for us) slide and not express that those were things I needed in a relationship. Had I not done that my relationship would still have been the same as before! So make sure you set those boundaries early on!💗
4. Appreciate Them for Who They Are - Being in a relationship is something that is supposed to be beautiful as well as a learning experience. Assuming you and your partner come from two different backgrounds it can be an adventure navigating one another’s habits, likes, dislikes, etc. But despite any differences it’s important to make them feel safe and comfortable being themselves always!
5. Take Advantage of Opportunities to See Them In Their Element - This might be one of my favorites!🫶🏾One of my favorite things about my boyfriend is how he lights up when talking about something he’s passionate about. This tip can also pertain to seeing them interact with family members or seeing them do some thing they care about. Having the opportunity to see them in that setting can draw the two of you closer!
6. Never Put Your Life on Hold for Them- When being in a relationship it’s sometimes easy to invest yourself so much into being the best partner that you could possibly sacrifice yourself, school work, social life or other important relationships in your life. Making sure to keep a healthy balance in life not only keeps you on top of your business but also keeps the relationship healthy!
7. Understand That Some People are Meant for a Season - Relationships, especially when you’re young, can get really deep really fast and can also change trajectory quickly. Make sure to understand that if something isn’t working, it’s not the end of the world! Sometimes people are great people but just not your people, or meant for you in that season of your life.
8. It’s One Thing to Self-Improve, It’s Another Thing To Change Yourself - Being in a relationship is all about growth and learning from one another but if you find yourself in a relationship where their requirements of you involve altering a part of who you are in an uncomfortable or unreasonable way, THATS NOT RIGHT! Be mindful of things you are and are not willing to change!
9. Be Patient With Them and Yourself - Relationship are learning processes so give your partner grace and give yourself grace! Neither of you are meant to be perfect!
10. Keep God at the Center of Your Life for Guidance - Growing closer to God has helped me and my boyfriend in our relationship. Praying together, praying for one another, and keeping God at the head of our lives is what keeps us going.✝️
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Building a truly strong and lasting relationship, as I've discovered, goes beyond just knowing the tips – it's about consistently putting them into practice and evolving together. When we first got back together, I realized that while communication is key, how we communicate makes all the difference. It's not just about talking; it's about active listening. I’ve learned to truly hear my partner, not just wait for my turn to speak. This means putting away distractions, making eye contact, and reflecting on what they've said. It helps prevent misunderstandings and makes both of us feel genuinely heard and valued, which is crucial for building relationships effectively. Another area that’s been transformative for us is how we approach challenges. It's easy to get defensive, but we've adopted a mindset of tackling problems as a team, rather than letting them become 'my problem' vs. 'your problem.' When disagreements arise, I try to use 'I' statements to express my feelings without assigning blame. For example, instead of 'You always do X,' I'll say, 'I feel Y when Z happens.' This small shift has opened up so many conversations and helped us solidify our bond and build trust, making our relationship even more resilient. On the topic of supporting each other, it’s been incredibly rewarding to see my partner thrive, and to know he feels the same about me. We make a conscious effort to celebrate each other’s small wins, whether it’s a good day at work or achieving a personal goal. It's about being each other's biggest cheerleader. And when one of us needs space for personal growth or to pursue a passion, we actively encourage it rather than seeing it as time away from 'us.' This mutual respect for individual journeys paradoxically makes our 'us' stronger and more fulfilling, addressing the idea of self-improvement before or during a relationship. Thinking about the 'golden rules' for a lasting bond, I’d add continuous effort and adaptability. Relationships aren't static; they ebb and flow, and what worked last year might need tweaking this year. We regularly check in with each other, sometimes informally over dinner, sometimes with a more structured 'relationship check-up.' This helps us stay aligned and address any little issues before they become big ones. It’s like tending a garden – consistent small actions prevent overgrowth and keep things blooming. Finally, let’s revisit cherishing those little moments. Beyond just noticing them, create them. Our favorite "dates" are often spontaneous – a long drive with our favorite playlist, cooking a new recipe together, or simply sitting in the backyard with coffee. These seemingly small acts accumulate into a deep sense of connection and appreciation. It reinforces why we love spending time together and keeps the spark alive. Remember, giving grace to yourself and your partner is truly a golden rule for navigating all of life's seasons together, and ultimately, helps keep your relationship strong whether you're a girlfriend or boyfriend.
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