When Poor Love Is All You’ve Known — Recognizing Healthy Love

When you've spent years in survival mode inside a relationship, your nervous system rewires itself around chaos as normal. So when something calm and consistent shows up, it doesn't feel like love — it feels suspicious. Like you're waiting for the trap. This isn't a flaw. It's a trauma response — and it has a name. The healing work isn't just about finding better love. It's about becoming someone whose nervous system can actually receive it.

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