it’s our parents first time on earth too🥹
As I am getting older and learning a lot of hard life lessons - I understand that my parents have always just done the best they could with the tools they had.
Wether it’s how they were raised, experiences they’ve had, environments they were around, trauma they experienced in the womb- it all shaped them into who they are and they are doing the best they can. Whether you have amazing parents, or parents who haven’t been the best. Just know- no matter your relationship with them, i hope you can forgive them or at least understand, that they are just human too.
It doesn’t excuse any bad behavior (if that is your situation) but just like you are human, so are they.
My personal experience, is that I have lived across the Pacific ocean from my family for a while and always been away and will never move back to my hometown. Up until this last 2 years, I was away from them figuring out my own life and healing from my childhood traumas and trying to understand certain things about my parents. I’m the oldest daughter (so you know how that goes if your an oldest daughter).
These last 2 years, I have lived a few states closer and have been able to see them more,but I am also going through life things that have brought me and my parents closer. And with that, I have learned a lot about their childhood.
What I am going through in life now, has helped build a beautiful relationship with my parents, because I am learning more about them. Which has been puzzling a lot of pieces together for me as to why they are the way that they are.
So just a reminder - our parents are only human, just like us.
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As we journey through life, it becomes increasingly clear that our parents are navigating their own experiences for the first time, much like us. This realization can significantly alter our perception of them. Recognizing that they were shaped by their upbringing, environments, and personal challenges helps us cultivate empathy and understanding. Understanding that our parents are products of their past can encourage us to approach our relationships with them more gently. Many individuals, especially those in similar situations to mine, find that moving away from home and living separately can create distance. However, reconnecting in recent years has allowed for deeper conversations and exploration of family legacies that can be transformative. This journey is especially poignant for the eldest daughters, who often bear the responsibility of understanding their parents and bridging gaps in communication. By opening dialogues about their childhood experiences, we can begin to piece together the behaviors and personalities of our parents. As we reflect on our own life lessons, we can create space for forgiveness and ultimately build stronger relationships. It's essential to remember that our parents, much like us, are learning and growing. The acknowledgment that they are also human invites us to foster compassionate connections, breaking down barriers that may have existed in the past.