I had never heard of secondary infertility…
TW: Miscarriage
Let me preface by saying I have two healthy kids. My pregnancies with them were completely normal full term and 0 complications.
Those are always the first questions I’m asked anytime I see a new OB. Because in the last year, I’ve had 3 miscarriages.
I’ve always pictured myself only having 2 kids. My siblings and I are 3 and I hated having an odd number. But once I had my second, something in my heart changed. I didn’t feel “done”
My husband and I weren’t planning, nor were we preventing another pregnancy. When it happened, we were both just pleasantly surprised and full of happiness.
At just 6 weeks, I started bleeding and I realized what was happening.
Just a couple of months later, I had another positive test. I’m not 100% positive on how far along I was, but I think I was closer to 8-9 weeks this time. And the bleeding started again.
It was even more shocking that time, although I was told it was just “bad luck”
We were about 5 months down the road on this one. I was really focusing on my health, my diet, and supplements.
I had another positive test and before I could even dream about what was to come, I started bleeding again.
It didn’t make sense to me that I could have 2 perfect pregnancies and healthy babies, and just 3 years later suddenly have 3 miscarriages. Why wasn’t my body doing what it could do just a few years ago?
I still don’t really have answers to that question. All of my labs have been normal.
But here are some things I’m doing differently:
- Breakfast before coffee
- Focusing on nutrient dense vs processed foods
- Vitamins, supplements, and low dose aspirin (recommended by my Dr)
- Sunshine & walks (when the weather is nice)
If you’re quietly suffering through a ttc journey or dealing with pregnancy loss, my heart truly aches for you too 🤍
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Secondary infertility is often overlooked, yet it affects many families trying to conceive after having healthy children. It's typically defined as the inability to conceive after at least one previous successful pregnancy. While the reasons can vary—from hormonal imbalances to structural issues—understanding the emotional toll is equally vital. It's important to seek support, whether through professional counseling, support groups, or online communities. Engaging with other women who face similar challenges can provide comfort and valuable shared experiences. Additionally, maintaining a healthy lifestyle can help; focus on nutrition, regular exercise, and managing stress are crucial steps many have found beneficial. Miscarriage can leave deep emotional scars, and processing that grief is a vital part of healing. Acknowledging your feelings and allowing yourself to grieve are important. Alternatively, some choose to engage in activities that honor their loss, creating a sense of closure. Taking a proactive approach by consulting healthcare professionals can also be empowering. They can help identify any underlying issues, provide insights into fertility treatments, or suggest lifestyle changes that may improve your chances of conceiving. Remember, every journey is unique! Sharing experiences and coping strategies is not just about seeking sympathy; it's about building a community where others can find support, understanding, and hope.
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