Boundaries in dating helped us keep God first!!

Alrighty y’all, let’s get comfy…

I’m gonna list a few of the boundaries we had while we were dating! Keep in mind everyone’s relationship is different and we started dating in HS, not as adults, and dated for 4 years before marriage. But I do believe that everyone’s boundaries should be fairly similar due to the overall temptations we experience as humans which are clear in Scripture! Now, these boundaries are lines decided we needed put in place for our dating relationship to help each other and ourselves keep God at the center of our lives. If that’s something you’d like to do as a Christian guy or gal, writing down boundaries and holding each other accountable is a great way to keep the focus on Christ.

Do some people do SOME of these things we chose not to and have a great focus on Christ? Of course! Do a lot of people struggle with unspoken sin or lust? Yes. We wanted to do everything with Godly wisdom so as to avoid mistakes of falling into lust and temptation. I believe these boundaries saved us from so much heartache and temptation. Was it hard? Absolutely, but it was so worth it.

✋🏻No go’s:

Sex. Of any kind.

Watching shows/movies with porn, or any kind of sexual interactions.

Kissing *gasp*, working out together specifically lifting weights, laying down on same bed/couch, staying the night in the same room, sleeping in the same house without adults also there, hanging out alone together into late hours of the night, watching movies late and alone.

🫶🏻We did:

Hold hands, hug, dance, take long day trips, stay out late with friends, watch movies late with friends, go on overnight trips with family and friends, go weekend camping with friends.

Yup you read that right, we didn’t kiss for 4 years, aka all of our dating relationship. We saved our first kids for our wedding day(check out my post ab our testimony)☺️. Some of these boundaries we honestly put into place after trial and error, we were both each other’s first(and only) relationship! We’d feel convicted and have to share and manage our boundaries all the time. But these are a few that helped us avoid struggling with our purity, holiness, and lust. We had friends to keep us accountable and family too(as awkward as that can be lol)

My #1 piece of advice is to do all the devotions on the Bible app you can find on dating, relationships, and friendships. I firmly believe that doing all those devotions and learning together helped save us so much heartache. Also use books and wise counsel as resources! And don’t forget to simply read what the Bible has to say about marriage and relationships! Dating is nowhere in the Bible, so you’re either brother and sister in Christ, or married, no friends with any kind of benefits!:)

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