It was my fault toxic people had access to me💔
As I start to get older and acquire a lot of experience with dating toxic people, I realized the problem wasn’t them, it was me.
The males I dated were still toxic people, but I had to step back and realize that they are who they are, and I accepted them just that way. I had to take accountability for hurting myself with people who weren’t meant to be with me. I wanted better but didn’t get better for myself.
Worst of all is that I kept trying to talk to men because I was afraid of being alone. I used to feel like being someone's girlfriend was better than being single, but it wasn’t.
Us women are programmed from the beginning of time to think we need to be married with children to experience the highest form of happiness possible, and that’s simply not true. Growing up and hearing the non-stereotypical happy people discuss why they are so happy, I realized that relationships and children are not a one-size-fits-all blanket that everybody wants.
With all that being said, I decided to build a relationship with myself. I started doing my hair, shaving, getting pretty, and not for the sake of a man to experience me but for me to experience me! I started getting in touch with the things that I loved in my childhood. I started watching old cartoons, and I think I’m going to start collecting Bratz dolls. Those are the things that make me happy. I also started doing things by myself such as eating, going to concerts, shopping, and walking around downtown. I speak highly of myself and work on who I am and the person I want to be. I enjoy hanging out with myself, I’m not scared to be alone. I talk to myself, I journal, I meditate, I do what’s in the best interest for myself. I don’t just have people around to fill the void of not being alone anymore, that was making me miserable and unhappy. I’m nice to myself because of the way I don’t let anybody have easy access to me. Everybody cannot have my number or be my friend. I say no when I can’t do things. I don’t say sorry if I don’t mean it (overly apologizing). I talk clearly and slowly, I don’t rush myself for anyone anymore! I am my dream self ❤️🔥 #blackgirlhairstyles #summerhairstyles #mentalhealth #relationshipadvice #selfloveinrelationships #selfloveforgirls #selfimprovement #relationshiptoself
Toxic relationships can have a profound impact on our mental well-being. Many individuals, especially women, often feel pressured to conform to societal expectations regarding relationships and happiness. However, building a strong relationship with oneself is essential. This includes embracing personal interests and hobbies without needing validation from others. Engaging in activities that bring joy, such as revisiting childhood favorites or taking time for self-reflection, can help foster a sense of fulfillment. Journaling and meditation are also powerful tools in cultivating self-awareness and emotional resilience. Additionally, understanding the dynamics of what makes a healthy relationship with oneself and others can lead to better choices in future partnerships. Remember, it's not just about finding someone to fill a void – it's about learning to enjoy your own company and building a life that feels authentically yours. By prioritizing self-care and setting boundaries, you can break free from the cycle of toxicity and embrace a healthier, happier version of yourself. It's time to start valuing your own needs and desires!
I love that you start this journey for yourself, finding joy in the simple things. We are programmed to love things outside of ourselves. I also start to do that instead of blaming my that I can’t be loved, noticing I am trying to make the wrong people try to love me 💗