Is it wrong to move out when ur parents need you?

I’ve always felt a little guilty for moving out young.

I’m my dad’s last child, and part of me feels like he probably still needed my help. But I also know I wouldn’t be where I am now if I didn’t put myself first.

I love my dad — but I couldn’t stay in a situation that wasn’t helping me grow. And tbh I think it’s just as selfish for parents to rely on their kids in ways that hold them back.

If you’ve been in a similar situation, how did you cope with the guilt?

#home #GirlTalk #AskLemon8 #toxic #family

2025/11/15 Edited to

... Read moreFeeling guilty about moving out when your parents still need support is a common emotional struggle. Many people, especially the youngest children like those who are last-born, often wrestle with whether they are being selfish by putting their own growth and independence first. It’s important to recognize that personal growth and family obligations don’t have to be mutually exclusive. True support for your parents can come in many forms, including establishing healthy boundaries that prevent enabling what might be an unhealthy reliance on children. It’s essential to acknowledge that parents relying too heavily on their adult children can sometimes create toxic family dynamics. These can hold everyone back from developing their best selves. Growing up means learning to set limits and understanding that you can love your parents deeply while also carving your own path. Guilt is a natural response, but it shouldn’t stop you from seeking a life that fosters your well-being. Many people find coping strategies helpful, such as open conversations with parents about mutual expectations, seeking outside support through therapy or counseling, or connecting with others in similar situations in forums or support groups. Sharing your experience and hearing others’ stories can provide comfort and guidance. Remember, making healthy choices for yourself ultimately benefits those you love the most because you’ll be stronger and more capable of supporting others when needed. Navigating the balance between family obligation and self-care is challenging but crucial. While it feels difficult to leave when your parents need help, prioritizing your growth today does not mean abandoning your family. It means creating a sustainable foundation to build a healthy relationship for the future.

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I never felt any guilt cause I would tell my boyfriends if my momma needs taken care of that’s my job she took care of me when I was little so it was my turn to take care of her that’s how it was she died on my lap 17yrs ago but I did my job and I love and miss her everyday

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you have to do what best for you. bottom line because he could always have a reason to need your help. who says you can't go back every now and then to help or even just to hang out

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