no more bad ideas in 2024 pt. 3
—-❤️🔥
At the start of this year, I decided not to enter anymore ‘situationships’. This came after the realization that something as unsteady and unreliable would never provide me a nourishing and nurturing connection like the kind I desired. I made sure to keep this in mind and ended a new connection without looking back.
However, there was something I hadn’t thought about.
This didn’t just apply to a ‘situationship’ but so many other aspects of my life, including friendships, familial connections, professional relationships, and serious romantic relationships!
If I wouldn’t accept a certain type of treatment from someone temporarily in my life, how could I accept it from someone who was meant to be in my life permanently? I had to ask myself something important.
What do I deserve?
What was I tolerating in the people around me, and how was I allowing them to treat me?
Getting a bit personal, I met someone recently that made me so enamored that I lost sight of many things. Things like how I wanted to be loved in a relationship and the ways in which I needed to feel secure and safe in a relationship. Within the week, after reminding myself of these things and bringing them to the surface, it wasn’t long before the connection began to fall into pieces.
It does not surprise me that when you have established boundaries, and do not accept or tolerate things otherwise, people will be forced to respect them or leave. I wondered for a long while whether I made the right choice or not, but the truth is that I know what I deserve.
I deserve love and respect and kindness. It isn’t selfish to ask for those things, and to all that cannot oblige, I send them away with love.
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I have faith that my world will be surrounded by people who love, respect, and care for me in the same ways I love, respect, and care for them. That’s all I need for now.
As we move into 2024, it's essential to take a holistic approach to our relationships. This includes recognizing your worth and establishing healthy boundaries, not just in romantic relationships but also with friends and family. Reflecting on personal experiences can illuminate the patterns we unwittingly accept. What do you truly deserve in your relationships? Evaluating this can lead to profound transformations in your life. When you express your needs, it sets a standard for how others treat you. Many people struggle with the fear of losing connections, but it's crucial to remember that prioritizing your mental health is not selfish. Consider journaling prompts like 'How do you feel?', 'What do you deserve?', and 'What boundaries do I need to establish?' to guide your thoughts on relationships. Furthermore, the keywords extracted from current discussions, including 'self-love', 'healthy boundaries', and 'transformative relationships', are pivotal to understanding the dynamics that foster secure and loving environments. By surrounding yourself with supportive individuals who respect your needs, you create a nurturing atmosphere conducive to personal growth and happiness. Let 2024 be the year you flourish in relationships by setting the bar higher for your interactions!
“no, alexandra” as a contact name is such a brilliant & easy reminder. thank you for the inspo!