Let’s see how emotional y’all get over this 👀

Personally I am not about to be with anyone that makes less than me. Call me what you want but I’m always chasing something better. And if I’m not where I’m at I’ll continue to educate and push myself until I’m there.

Right now I’m at about $70k a year give or take and I’m still not happy with that number.

With that being said my partner has to be making at least $130k a year.

Life is expensive. And im trying to build here. So yes my partner has to make more. No question about it.

So what’s your number?

And if you say “it doesn’t matter” why? #cozychats

2025/12/16 Edited to

... Read moreMoney in relationships is a topic that often stirs strong emotions and opinions. Many people say money doesn't matter when it comes to love, but as the saying goes, "everyone says money doesn't matter until it does." In today’s world, with increasing living costs and ambitions to build stable, comfortable lives, financial compatibility can play a crucial role in long-term relationship satisfaction. For those focused on growth, like earning $70k a year but aspiring for more, wanting a partner with a higher income might not just be about status but about shared goals and stability. It’s understandable to desire a partner making at least $130k if you’re aiming to build a future that supports your lifestyle and dreams. The key is communication and understanding each other's financial mindset. People approach money and success differently; some prioritize career growth and financial advancement, while others value experiences or a balanced lifestyle. Being honest about your expectations can save misunderstandings down the line. Reflecting on the scripture references seen in the image, such as Luke 1:41-47, joy can come from alignment in values, including financial goals. It's about building a partnership where both individuals feel secure and motivated to grow together. If you say "it doesn’t matter" about your partner’s income, it’s worth asking "why?" Is it because you prioritize emotional connection more? Or perhaps shared values and lifestyle compatibility matter most? Ultimately, setting financial expectations isn't about judgment; it's about acknowledging practical realities and personal aspirations. Sharing your honest thoughts on this encourages open, meaningful discussions in communities like #cozychats and beyond.

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