Pregnant & he wants out

I’ve been with my husband for 9 years, married 6 months, and now pregnant with our first baby. Out of nowhere, he tells me we’re “not compatible” and that he wants a divorce — but since I’m pregnant, he’ll wait until after the baby is born.

I gave up my dream job, my family, and my support system to build a life with him. Now he says he loves me but isn’t in love with me. I want to fight for my marriage, but I also feel like I shouldn’t have to beg someone to love me and put me and our child first.

Has anyone else gone through something like this — did you fight for it or let it go? I’m heartbroken and lost right now.

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2025/9/13 Edited to

... Read moreWow, reading your story hit me hard. Going through such immense emotional pain, especially during pregnancy, is undeniably one of life's toughest challenges. It's so easy to feel completely lost and question everything about yourself when your partner drops a bomb like that. I remember when I was pregnant, even without that kind of relationship upheaval, I struggled with feeling comfortable in my own skin. My body was changing so rapidly, and sometimes it felt like I was losing myself. When you're facing a marital crisis while pregnant, it's not just your heart that's hurting; it's your whole sense of self, your future, and how you perceive your own 'figure' – both physically and emotionally. It's natural to wonder, 'Will I ever feel beautiful or strong again?' or 'How can I even think about body image when my world is falling apart?' The world can feel like it's shrinking, and it's easy to forget that you still have immense power and value. I've learned that during these times, focusing on self-care isn't selfish; it's essential. It’s about building resilience and reclaiming a sense of control over what you can control. For me, that meant finding little ways to feel good. Even something as simple as choosing comfortable, yet flattering clothing, like soft, light grey ribbed clothing that embraced my changing pregnant woman's belly rather than trying to hide it. It wasn't about being 'hot' for anyone else, but about feeling comfortable and confident *for myself*. Those small acts of kindness towards myself helped me feel more put-together, even when I was crumbling inside. Staying active, even just gentle walks, made a huge difference to my mood. Lacing up my white sneakers and taking a stroll, feeling the fresh air on my face, helped me clear my head. It wasn't about maintaining a 'mom hot figure' in the traditional sense, but about nurturing my physical and mental health. That inner strength, that sense of taking care of *me*, paradoxically made me feel more grounded and, yes, even more 'me.' It's about finding that inner glow that comes from self-respect and self-preservation. It's incredibly tough when you're feeling rejected, and your body is going through such a profound transformation. But this journey, this pregnancy, is *yours*. Your strength isn't defined by someone else's perception of your compatibility or your physical appearance. It comes from within. Focus on nourishing yourself and your baby. Find your support system – friends, family, or even online communities like this one. Share your feelings. Don't bottle them up. Seek professional guidance if you feel overwhelmed; a therapist or counselor can provide invaluable tools to navigate this emotional landscape. Remember, a truly 'hot mom figure' isn't just about external appearance; it's about the incredible strength, resilience, and love you carry within you. It's about navigating immense challenges with grace and courage, all while creating new life. That is profoundly beautiful and powerful. You are growing a human being, and that is a miraculous feat. Embrace the changes, both physical and emotional. This journey will redefine you, and you will emerge stronger than you can imagine. You deserve love, support, and to feel good about the incredible woman and mom you are becoming, no matter what challenges you face. This isn't the end of your story; it's the challenging, yet powerful, beginning of a new chapter where you define your figure, your strength, and your future.

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He is definitely seeing someone else no one just wakes up and decides that you and that baby deserve the world and if he can’t be grateful for you and the baby. girl get out of there cause it’s not gonna get any better and never stay with him just for your baby I promise it will only make you grow to dislike him. Look out for you and the baby that’s what matters most it’s because he is childish and can’t be the man you need him to be

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Abort if possible but def let him go move on find someone real and trustworthy then he will crawl back and you will say NO!

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