How to Date Correctly

Wanna learn how to date correctly? Here’s how to stay off the roster and be the pedestal girl—the woman men obsess over, respect, and commit to.

1️⃣ Have a Roster, But Never Be on One!

~Date multiple men to keep your options open, but never let a man treat you like just another option.

2️⃣ Control Your Emotions:

~Never let a man see you sweat. If he pulls back, don’t chase—pull back even harder. Pedestal women are completely unbothered by men!

3️⃣ Don’t Be Too Available

~ High-value women are busy living their amazing, fulfilling lives. Never drop everything for a man. Men drop everything for you!

4️⃣ Make Him EARN Your Time & Attention

~Pedestal women are not easily accessible. If he wants your time, he needs to put in effort—planning dates, proving consistency, and showing genuine interest. And if he doesn’t, then boy bye ✌️

5️⃣ Never Sleep With Him Too Soon and Definitely Don’t Ever Give Him Money or Pay

~Roster girls give it up easily. They pay for shit. Buy gifts. Girl no. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Pedestal girls make men work for everything especially the 🐈‍⬛ cuz they know waiting for se❌ creates attachment, and they only invest in men who deserve them and have earned the privilege of access to their bodies.

6️⃣ Set High Standards / Enforce Boundaries

~ If he disrespects you, disappears, or treats you like an option—he’s gone. No warnings, no explanations. There is way too many men in this world to be tolerating bad behavior and disrespect.

7️⃣ For the Love of God, Please Never Ask ‘What Are We?’

~A pedestal girl never begs for clarity. She’s so valuable that men can’t stand the thought of losing her and offer commitment without her asking. Dating is a game and you are the prize! Act like it!!!

8️⃣ Let Him Chase—Not the Other Way Around:

~The second you start chasing him, you’ve dropped from pedestal status to roster material. Men value what they have to work for.

9️⃣ Always Be Willing to Walk Away

~The most powerful thing a woman can have in dating is the courage to walk away if a man isn’t stepping up. Nothing screams high-value more than a woman who knows her worth and won’t settle. This is why men love bitches. 😼

➡️ This is the kind of energy that keeps a woman off the roster and on the pedestal. Follow me for more dating advice and learn how to date correctly so you can stop getting frustrated with men and start winning in love! 😻

#datingadvice101 #dating #datingadviceforwomen #single #datingtipsforwomen

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2025/2/12 Edited to

... Read moreNavigating the dating world can be overwhelming, but understanding your worth is essential. Start by establishing a strong personal identity and filling your life with interests that excite you. Engage in activities that foster your confidence and self-worth. Setting boundaries is crucial. Communicate your needs clearly and be prepared to walk away from relationships that do not respect those boundaries. Men are naturally inclined to chase, so maintain an aura of mystery and independence that keeps them intrigued. In the realm of dating, it's vital to keep emotions in check. Avoid appearing desperate, as this can diminish your value in their eyes. Maintaining an emotional distance allows you to engage in dating without losing yourself. Investing in personal growth, such as reading self-help books on relationships or attending workshops, can also enhance your dating experience. It helps you identify red flags early and empowers you to choose partners wisely. Focus on finding a balance between being open to love and maintaining your independence. Lastly, remember that dating is not about rushing into things. Cultivating patience can lead to healthier, more meaningful relationships. By presenting yourself as someone worth pursuing, you signal to potential partners that you are serious about your standards and expectations. Follow these guidelines, and you will transform your dating life into a fulfilling experience, where you are always on the pedestal!

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