Do u fear they won’t want u if they don’t need u?

Many people, especially those who identify as extreme givers, struggle with the haunting fear that if others don’t need them, they won’t want them. This mindset often creates what is called "The Curse of the Extreme Giver," where a person's value is entirely tied to their usefulness or how much they sacrifice for others. But this approach can be emotionally exhausting and unhealthy. Understanding this fear is the first step toward breaking free from it. When we constantly seek validation through acts of giving, we risk losing sight of our intrinsic worth independent of those actions. It’s essential to cultivate self-love and authentic connections that aren’t based solely on what we do for others but who we truly are. A practical way to combat this fear is to learn to set healthy boundaries. Saying no is not selfish; it's a necessary act of self-care. Boundaries help maintain balance in relationships and encourage others to appreciate us for more than just what we provide. Additionally, engaging in communities that promote healing and growth, such as the CMTY-PLUS mentioned by BadassCounseling, can offer support from people who are also working toward authenticity. Listening to podcasts like "The BadassCounseling Show" can provide continuous motivation and guidance. Remember, being wanted is about genuine connection, not conditional needs. Embracing your authentic self allows relationships to flourish naturally, without the pressure of constant sacrifice. By shifting focus from being needed to simply being valued, extreme givers can nourish both themselves and their relationships more healthily and sustainably.