Your past is secretly running your present!

Until you change your past as it exists and is interpreted inside of you, it continues to run your present and not in good ways. You need the right tools to change this. And healing should not take a long time. Join the new, limited enrollment community, CMTY-PLUS! which provides direct access to me, 2x/month plus drawings every month for free group & 1:1 counseling with me, priority pass access to more opportunities, plus a great community of warm and supportive people on the journey together, and so much MORE!!! It’s for Badasses serious about going next-level in becoming authentic and healing their sh*t! Also available is my latest book, BADASS WISDOM, a 365 day daily meditational and inspirational book. It’s a great way to jumpstart every day. Also download my free podcast, The Badass Counseling Show. Listen while I counsel and coach many people through life’s hardest problems, many of which you may be going through yourself. Also available  are DIY video courses on relationships, parenting, dating, self healing, and more. And of course my bestselling book, There’s a hole in my love cup! Life changers all! #parents #newparent #fyplemon8 #mom #momlife

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... Read moreMany of us don’t realize how deeply our past continues to affect our present, shaping our thoughts, emotions, and actions often without conscious awareness. The phrase "Ur past is running ur present more than u realize!" really captures this hidden influence. Our early experiences, especially those involving emotional wounds or unresolved conflicts, form patterns that can limit our happiness and growth if left unaddressed. The good news is that healing is possible and doesn’t have to be a lengthy process. Techniques such as cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness, and guided meditations can help us reinterpret and reframe our past experiences in a more empowering light. For example, daily inspiration from a book like "BADASS WISDOM," which offers 365 days of meditations and insights, can serve as a consistent source of motivation and mental resetting. Community support also plays a crucial role in healing. Participating in groups like CMTY-PLUS allows individuals to connect with others on a similar journey, fostering understanding and encouragement. This environment provides not just counseling but also resources such as live coaching, video courses on relationships, parenting, and self-healing, which are practical tools for real life challenges. Podcasts featuring real counseling sessions, such as The Badass Counseling Show, demystify the healing process and offer relatable stories that resonate with listeners’ personal struggles. Hearing others navigate similar difficulties can reduce feelings of isolation and inspire action. In summary, recognizing that your past shapes your present is the first step toward change. Using targeted tools, engaging in supportive communities, and consistently practicing self-reflection and healing strategies can help you reclaim your present and create a more authentic and fulfilling life.

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