Does your cheater OWN you? #fyp #fy #foryou
It is so easy when we have been cheated on to think that the cheater needs to go to therapy. And they do. No doubt.
But the simple truth is that they cheated on victim needs to be in therapy too, not just to heal from all the pain that was caused to them, but to drill down to the core beliefs that they believe about themselves. Because it is that stuff that will drive them to either begin to stand up for themselves or back down. That is the fundamental issue. Those core beliefs.
Or you can do that work on your own and save thousands of dollars. Get the book, Cheating Sucks! is my latest
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From my experience supporting people who have been cheated on, one of the hardest things to grasp is how much emotional control the cheater can unintentionally or intentionally have over the victim. When someone experiences infidelity, it's common to feel as if the cheater 'owns' you—meaning they have a hold on your emotions, decisions, and sense of self. This sense of ownership often stems from deep-seated core beliefs about oneself that can be shaken or shattered by betrayal. What helped many people I know and worked with is shifting focus away from blaming the cheater alone to also addressing their own emotional wounds and beliefs. Therapy can be an essential tool to work through feelings of shame, worthlessness, or helplessness that often develop. But there are also self-help resources, like the book 'Cheating Sucks!,' that guide you in identifying these limiting beliefs and rebuilding your confidence. The idea isn’t just to heal from the pain but to break free from the influence the cheater’s actions have over your life. This means learning to stand up for yourself, reclaim your voice, and set boundaries without fear or guilt. It’s empowering to realize that while the cheater caused the hurt, they don’t have the power to define your future or self-worth. An important insight is that healing is an active process. It’s easy to feel stuck or pressured to 'forgive and forget' before you’re ready. Taking time for yourself, honoring your feelings, and getting the support you need—whether through counseling or dedicated self-help work—creates space for genuine healing. Finally, many find that once they start to heal their core beliefs, they regain clarity around decisions about the relationship. Whether to rebuild or move on becomes clearer when you’re no longer controlled by pain and manipulation. If you’re feeling lost in this storm of pain, distrust, and confusion, know that it’s possible to rise above it. Healing yourself first puts you back in the driver’s seat of your life, and that’s the most badass thing you can do.