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Is Trying Just An Excuse We Tell Ourselves?

Believing someone is trying when there’s zero evidence is self deception. It feels like hope, but it’s actually ignoring reality. I’ve caught myself doing this before making excuses for actions that weren’t there. True effort is visible. If you can’t see it, don’t convince yourself it exists. Has this ever happened to you?

#GirlPOV #HotTake #RelationshipAdvice #RedFlagAlert #RealTalk

2025/10/25 Edited to

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I always try to find the good in people, but sometimes that's just a recipe for heartbreak, y'know?

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