How did Bo manage his emotions when he knew he had cancer "?

No matter how much we practice suffering immunity, when we hear this sentence from the doctor, it will be a shock to each other, even if we have cancer at the age of 26...Those suffering seems light when there's a big pain like cancer.

Hello, Bo, student of the sixth year of lung cancer school [Aka. a stage 4 lung cancer patient who has been with the disease for five and a half years].

There are a lot of Disease colleagues joining the new faculty lately, not sure, but a lot of people ask Bo.

My dad just tested cancer, and now he's shocked the whole house, and I don't know what to start with.

I had just been treated with chemo until my cancer collapsed for three months, but when I followed the doctor, he grew up again, and when did I have to fight it?

: The mother of a friend detected cancer. The memory of the mother of a friend was cancer, however, did not survive. The mother of a friend said that it was not better to treat.

Okay, Bo will come to share his personal experience, which is a practice of understanding the world and cancer 101 that Bo has used for five and a half years. Can do some, not some, but overall, can be plowed and have a strong heart to stand in the sixth year.

1.) 'Set your mind'

This is very important. After Bo heard from the doctor that Bo has metastatic lung cancer (stage 4), Bo went to spend more time getting to know Bo's cancer. 5 years ago, there was no AI technology. Bo used a foreign search paper method, then sat down and translated the vocabulary, correctly translated, and then consulted people close to us first. Relatives who had people next to him with cancer about which doctor they treated, including Bo, luckily, who also had many friends studying doctors, so there were a lot of counselors. After that, he looked up the doctor's profile from each hospital and consulted them all. So (one person each) to know

If the doctor is in the same direction, we should choose which doctor. This cancer treatment must stay with the doctor for a long time. In addition to choosing a good doctor, the doctor we want to treat wants to be as' human 'as possible, understanding the patient, kind, compassionate, non-ego, listening, and not judging 🙂, as well as planning the finances with the family as possible. There is something we can do. And of course, we have to adjust (this is for Bo to share later). After deciding to treat, go ahead!

2. 'Practice cancer acceptance and practice with the present'

This procedure is quite difficult, and Bo has spent many years. Bo says that many of his friends are probably like Bo. When we hear the word cancer that we don't like, we don't want him to be inside, we will disgust, want to relegate, and ask why, why, why, I have to keep going around like this, until maybe the mass of suffering we create is even bigger than the tumor of cancer.

"Bo thinks we're suffering not all because we have cancer, but sometimes we're suffering because we're trying to control something uncontrollable like cancer."

There are two main ways to use Bo.

2.1) Mildfulness is the practice of knowing emotions, just knowing naivety (as Father Suvarnong wrote), every emotion that happens, it will go out, try to come out of what we think we are, become an observer instead, write like this, may not see the picture, Bo would like to share the exercise that Bo practices to accept cancer.

✨ Bo learned a teaching from the teacher. The first teacher that Bobang searched on the net was' Master Visalo. 'Bo didn't remember which clip it was, but the clip was probably 2-3 hours long. But Bo spent a week studying, Bo wrote down what he said and then sat down and read it like this. Let's think about what acceptance is. What is true present? (Which Bo wanted to say is that Dharma is not about religion, but Bo saw it as nature. Everything he said. When he thought about it, he found that it was all true). Hi, Bo attached this clip. Maybe it's not the first clip that Bo knows you, but every clip of you, if you listen carefully, must benefit more or less. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yd8x1V40jLQ&t=59s Today, Bo is still studying. There is a study from the clip of Luang Pamoch Cho.

✨ After that, you can practice your emotions. You can actually use any method. Bo uses it in many ways, such as sometimes we are very angry at the spread of cancer. But when we are angry, we do not know it. Bo recommends to try to say 'Eh' and step back from that emotion. We will see that it is' anger '. This is not us. Why do we have to be angry? Most of the time, some emotions show up. Bo usually speaks alone. Hahahahaha

For example, the day when he learned that he had increased in numbers, after walking out of the doctor's room, Bo was alone.

"Damn, you come again. You'll take it, right?"

"Oh, no, no. Cancer is like us. It wants to survive."

"What can I do? What can I do? This is from the heart. Find something to eat first."

"Yeah, I'm not angry. I don't know why I'm angry."

Bo is like this a lot. When we step back from that emotion, we see that we are not that emotional.

There is also another way that Bo knowingly uses emotions is to make Mood Tracking. Name that emotion how we feel. And we will see that it is actually just an emotion. It's not us. Most of the time, Bo writes in the morning after waking up. Explore us how we feel today.

✨ Bo used to practice happiness. In the beginning, Bo was very distressed as well with cancer, with physical conditions, with the things we experienced, but luckily, the body was not very conducive to going anywhere, so he ordered a book by Thing Round to read the book "Happy Skills." There was a sentence in the book that he said about how young we had to practice walking, practice eating, practice speaking, and why when we were sad, we were unhappy, we did not practice happiness. "Happiness is also a skill" (I can't remember the letters). After that Bo tried to practice looking. Find a small happiness each day. Aim to meet at least 1 story a day. If found more than 1 story is a bonus 🙂, believe it? After that, the happiness around it is much easier to catch. Okay, today go to the hospital, the doctor told me the bad news. But luckily, today I eat a favorite glass of ice. After thinking like this, my heart is much lighter and more comfortable.

The cancer is still there, but our lives aren't just cancers.

✨ If you can't really look for happiness, try to put happiness in your body by listening to the Positive Affirmation clip of the Red Doctor Thai Medicine channel. The doctor's tone is very soft. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kjeHaoGRgWk&list=PLxf64APnAmSBUyExGQ6O7qoJ8b18YOhk4&index=4

2.2) 'The weevil writes, drains suffering'.

Bo likes to write journals. In fact, Bo may be lucky to have been a writer since childhood. When he got cancer, he came back to write again. The main way Bo writes is to write Brain Dump, or to write out everything in his head, stress, fear, anxiety, anger, frustration, whatever it is in his head.

There was a time when Bo was depressed. I remembered that the event was that I couldn't stop crying. I tried to go out and do what I liked, but no matter what I did, it didn't improve. Finally, I picked up the book and wrote everything in my head, wrote it out without composition, wrote it to the lump in my head, and when I finished writing it, the tears stopped flowing. It was true that the problem didn't disappear. But it was like I put a big pile of thoughts in my head and put it on a piece of paper instead. And when I looked at it from the outside, I started to see what I was sorry about, what I was afraid of, or what I was worried about. Of course.

Because many times, suffering does not come from events, but from the thoughts that circulate in our heads. After writing, Bo likes to write a summary of what Bo writes. Bo separates what he writes into two groups: what can be solved and what cannot be solved. If solved, write what to do. But if not solved, then 'mechanic'.

Some things in life, we don't have a duty to control them, the more we think, the more we stress, the more we suffer, the more we finally do nothing but accept it and let it go.

I hope this post will be useful to your cancer colleagues, caregivers or those who are experiencing distress and can't find a way out. (Bo will make another clip)

Look for happiness. It's there. Just try to find it. 🙂

Bo Ananya

School of Cancer Science students in lung cancer, sixth year.

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