I’m a problem but not the problem 🫶

Receiving an autism diagnosis at 30 was one of the most profound experiences of my life. For years, I just knew something was 'different' about me – I struggled in social situations, had intense interests, and felt overwhelmed by sensory input that others seemed to handle with ease. People might have seen me as 'a problem' sometimes, but deep down, I always felt like I wasn't the problem; there was just a piece of the puzzle missing. This diagnosis finally gave me that missing piece. I remember countless times feeling like an outsider, trying to mimic social cues, and exhausting myself in the process. My brain just processed the world differently. Getting that official diagnosis wasn't a shock in the way some might expect; it was more of a massive wave of relief and validation. It wasn't that I was 'broken' or 'wrong,' I was just wired differently. This understanding allowed me to reframe so many past experiences, from childhood friendships that fizzled out to career paths that felt overwhelming. If you're an adult suspecting you might be autistic, or you’ve recently received a late diagnosis like I did, you’re not alone. The journey to self-acceptance is ongoing, but here are a few things that have helped me: Educate Yourself: Learn as much as you can about autism in adults and, specifically, how it presents in people assigned female at birth, as it often looks different than the stereotypical image. Understanding the nuances helps you recognize your own traits and strengths. Find Your Community: Connecting with other autistic adults, whether online or in person, has been incredibly empowering. Sharing experiences and tips with people who truly get it is invaluable. It helps you realize that those quirky traits you thought made you 'a problem' are actually common and often bring unique strengths. Advocate for Yourself: Once you understand your needs, you can better advocate for accommodations in work, school, or social settings. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries that protect your energy and well-being. Practice Self-Compassion: It’s easy to look back and lament lost time or past misunderstandings. Instead, try to offer yourself the same kindness and understanding you would give a friend. This journey is about unmasking and embracing your authentic self. My diagnosis helped me understand why I often felt like 'a problem but not the problem!' It wasn't about being faulty; it was about having a unique operating system. And you know what? Since embracing this, I’ve found that the people who truly matter, the ones who tried to come back into my life, appreciate me for who I am, quirks and all.