im officially adopted!! ✨🩷
my adoption has been finalized today 🥹🥹🥹
im out of mind ecstatic about this. ive been a foster kid since i was 14 months old and ive never had a good foster home at all until i was 6, but still then, i was pulled in and out of it.
i never wanted adopted because i didnt need to be. my parents were my parents regardless of a piece of paper.
i only said yes last year because i was sick of my social workers and dcfs taking me out all the time even tho technically, i was no longer a foster kid after my now ex adoptive father adopted me when I was 7(which he forced me to do). so im hoping this time, the state doesn’t see me as a foster kid still, otherwise ill be 23-26 when i age out.
although i feel bad about it because it was supposed to be my mom and her late wife adopting me but she died a week before it could happen this summer, im glad i opened my mind and heart up a bit more and stopped overthinking it when my mom and aunt talked to me about it some more today when i woke up.
im happy im finally adopted. i hate the foster system, and i only had one good home out of the 200+ i was in since 14 months old.
today, ive officially and finally been adopted, and by two women who couldn’t love me any more than they already do.
as of today, 12/03/25, my mom and her best friend (my aunt) are officially and legally my moms.
✨🩷🎀
Navigating the foster care system can be incredibly challenging, especially for children who find themselves moving between multiple homes. For those like the author, who experienced over 200 placements, the foster system often feels unstable and uncaring. The process of adoption is not just a legal step but an emotional milestone that can transform a young person's sense of belonging and security. Adoption finalization means that the child is no longer considered a foster child by the state, which affects the resources and support they receive. Many who age out of foster care without being adopted may face increased difficulties due to lack of family support. Therefore, the author’s excitement about no longer being in the foster system reflects a new chapter of stability and love. Being adopted by two women as legal parents also highlights the importance of diverse family structures today and how love and care define a family beyond traditional norms. The story touches on the emotional struggles involved when plans shift due to loss, such as the passing of the author’s mom’s late wife, showing the real-life complexities of adoption journeys. If you or someone you know is involved in foster care or adoption, it’s critical to understand the emotional and legal implications that come with it. Support systems, advocacy, and open communication can help ease transitions and create nurturing environments. Many foster kids face trauma and uncertainty, so adoption can be a profound source of hope. This narrative is a reminder that love, acceptance, and legal recognition can dramatically improve the lives of foster children. It underscores the need for better foster care reforms while celebrating the victories when stable, loving families come together to create lasting bonds.
