The Hardest Person to Forgive
From being in the relationship,
to the breakup,
to post breakup,
I kept holding onto the thought
of the relationship ended because of her.
During the day, I usually tell everyone:
“I’m not mad at her; she did her best.”
But late at night, this thought always came up:
“It was her who made us lose this relationship”
to make myself sleep better at night.
I personally think that I have a deep understanding and knowledge of psychology.
to a point I think I'm someone with godlike superpower,
to be able to see through everyone,
Until recently,
I started studying and exploring
other areas of metaphysics,
gaining more knowledge about human in general.
Only then I feel truly humbled.
That comfort balloon I was in,
was popped,
and the fall onto the floor awaken me.
I could've easily say that she
was an avoidant, pushing people away, running away.
And that this relationship was challenging.
But it was my decision to start this in the first place,
and also my responsibility to learn how to live with her.
What I said and asked for during the relationship,
was right logically.
But what I missed out on
was learning and understanding more deeply
on how communicate in ways that suited her,
rather than just using the methods that I thought were logically right.
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But at this point,
I still don't blame myself too much,
because at the time,
I really did try my best.
And I know
she did her best too.
#relationshiptalk #mentalhealthawareness #breakuptips #heartbreaking #selflovetips
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