Forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened is okay

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... Read moreForgiveness is often misunderstood as condoning or accepting the harm done to us, but in reality, it is a profound act of releasing ourselves from the grip of anger and resentment. From my personal experience, I found that true forgiveness involves entrusting justice and healing to a higher power—in this case, Yahweh—rather than seeking revenge or dwelling on pain. This spiritual surrender doesn’t erase the wrong or imply that what happened was acceptable; instead, it frees you emotionally and spiritually. During my own healing journey, embracing this concept helped me see forgiveness as a gift to myself rather than to the person who wronged me. By handing over the right to punish to Yahweh, I stopped allowing bitterness to dictate my feelings or actions. This approach allowed me to focus on my recovery and personal growth, leading to inner peace and strength. It’s important to recognize that forgiveness is a process. It takes time, reflection, and sometimes support from faith communities or healing programs. In Christian teachings, forgiveness is closely tied to the example set by Yeshua (Jesus), who exemplified mercy and compassion. Following this path not only helps heal emotional wounds but also fosters empathy and understanding, encouraging us to break the cycle of pain and retaliation. Incorporating forgiveness into your life does not mean you must forget or reconcile with those who have hurt you. Rather, it is about reclaiming your power and allowing Yahweh to handle justice, so you can move forward without carrying the burden of revenge. This mindset has been transformational for me and many others on the healing journey, offering a way to live with peace despite past hurts.

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