It's the people that matter 🫶🏾

Life brought me and Ben back to Dallas for a bit.

I wish it had been for a happier occasion, but life is an experience and sometimes we endure moments that carve holes into us — reshape us into new people and divide our lives into segments of "before this moment" and "after this moment". It is the reality of being human, if you live long enough.

But there is still light and joy to be found in sad moments.

For me, it was taking some time to see Tatiana Obey while we were in Texas. We got some ramen (not pictured cause we were just living in the moment), and some coffee and talked about life and publishing and all things in between. It filled my soul to sit with someone I call my friend and just enjoy the day with her.

I also got a special edition of her book, Bones to the Wind as a Christmas gift 😆

I love being an author and being friends with authors and I'm blessed to have amazing people in my life. My world is saturated with softness and kindness and love and I'll never not be grateful for that. So yeah. Get Tatiana's books. Get my books. Love on the people in your life while you have them. Because tomorrow is not promised.

#blackgirlauthors #friendships #fantasyauthor

2025/12/18 Edited to

... Read moreLife often shapes us through profound experiences that mark clear divisions in our personal stories, such as moments of loss or hardship. Yet, even in these difficult times, people commonly find solace and strength through meaningful connections and shared experiences. Rediscovering joy with close friends—like enjoying a simple meal of ramen and coffee while discussing life and creative pursuits—can be a profound reminder that we are not alone. In the literary community, author friendships offer not only emotional support but also creative inspiration. Tatiana Obey’s book, "Bones to the Wind," reflects the rich narratives that Black female authors bring to the fantasy genre, challenging stereotypes and offering fresh perspectives. It’s important to acknowledge works that write about Black girls who defy conventional norms, creating stories where their complexity and diversity are celebrated. Supporting authors by reading and sharing their books helps elevate these voices and fosters a community centered on kindness, softness, and love—qualities essential for healing and growth. This reminder to cherish those around us every day resonates deeply: life is unpredictable, and tomorrow is never promised. Embracing these moments of togetherness and mutual encouragement enriches our lives and encourages us to keep moving forward, even through pain. Whether through literature, friendship, or simple daily joys, investing in human connection nurtures the soul and helps transform hardship into resilience. This authentic reflection encourages readers to value the people in their lives and the unique stories they share, emphasizing that true strength lies in community and love.

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