Need help! Dealing with pessimism
I have always been pretty lucky in life, and of the mindset that I am lucky. But lately, I have been drowning in pessimism.
Expecting the worst to happen more frequently than expecting good things to come my way.
My mom always asks me, god has given you everything, why do have so much fear of failure and I have no answer to that.
Not much has gone widely wrong in my life other than a few mishaps which we all go through, but I find myself constantly preparing or verbalising the worst outcomes. For example, what if the jewellery I ordered is fake, or the plan of travel I have will fall apart, from tiny things to major life decisions, I expect the worst outcomes.
If you have any idea how to deal with these emotions, where they are stemming from, guide your little internet friend.
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I used to struggle with this too, and still do sometimes! Honestly it’s hard to beat/get out of, but one thing that helped me was combating the pessimistic thoughts with an additional positive thought, even if it’s a silly one. Like your example of fake jewelry, I would tell myself “well, even if it is, it’s still cute to wear, and I often lose stuff anyway, so at least it won’t be a huge loss if it’s fake/cheap!” Things like that helped me to break the habit and shift to a more positive mindset overall. :)