Straight, 40, single, childless, how does it feel?
Most people believe having a child and raising a family is the purpose of life. To someone who believes that, I agree. They should do all of those things. Get the family, house the dog minivan and all. With that said.
You can't pay for peace of mind. The fact is that married people feel stuck. Every one I know who has a family. It's the main source of their complaints.
I've seen kids grow up to be wonderful people. That's not always the case. Kids can be problematic as adults and adolescents.
People say if you don't have a family. You will be bored or lonely. Bullshit! There are more single people than you would think. Divorced people, widows, Younger people (people in 20's and 30's). The only way you will be lonely is if you want to be only. Boredom is for people who don't know what to do with themselves. If you have goals and Hobby's There is always something to do or learn.
People will say you will die alone. I worked for a pharmacy that delivered medicine to nursing homes. Those people have active social lives. Even if you take care of your family. You will still most likely end up in a nursing home.
You need somebody to depend on. I've got good credit. health insurance. triple A. I can fix shit. When I do need someone it's rare. People know that I will reciprocate, thus getting a favor out of someone is not very difficult.
People will project all of their insecurities on you. If you're secure in yourself. you aren't needy or need a lot of attention. This lifestyle is so peaceful. I could go on and on , I will sum it up this way. I'm much much much happier than most married people
In conclusion this lifestyle may not be for everyone. Don't let anyone force their opinion on you and tell you the downsides outweigh the benefits. It's a lie. I'm living proof.
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