5 Common Lies Men Use For Manipulation And Lying ⚠️
Hello hello lovely people,
A common request I've been getting lately is breaking down common phrases most of us face in the talking stages and honestly, I get it.
Studying men psychology, I've noticed a recent pattern that many of my friends have been facing while dealing with hinge, tinder or bumble matches. So I decided to break down some of the common phrases you've probably heard.
Keep in mind that it's important you use your better judgement and see if your current situation with your person of interest is doing anything to make you suspicious or simply a gut feeling (never ignore that) as you go through these.
As I always say, take what resonates and leave what doesn't.
Hope this helps save some headaches!
Until then lovelies 🤍🪽✨
Hey everyone! Following up on those tricky phrases we discussed, it's one thing to spot a lie, but it's another to understand the deeper dynamics at play and how to protect your peace. We've all been there, wondering 'why does my boyfriend lie and hide things from me?' or reeling from the classic 'I was just busy, that's why I didn't call' excuse. It truly feels like some 'dudes just be lying for no reason,' but often, there's an underlying cause, even if it's not a good one. From my own experience and chatting with friends, these lies often stem from a desire to avoid conflict, maintain control, or simply keep their options open without dealing with the consequences. When you hear 'Sorry. I didn't see your message' or 'You're the only one I talk to,' and your gut screams otherwise, it's crucial to listen. That feeling isn't paranoia; it's your intuition trying to protect you. Let's zoom in on the 'too busy' excuse. We all know 'it takes 5 seconds to send a text,' right? When someone consistently uses busyness as a reason for neglect, it's rarely about actual time constraints. It's about priority. If someone truly values you, they will make time, even if it's just a quick message. This isn't about demanding constant attention; it's about basic respect and consistent effort. I once dated someone who always had an excuse, and I kept making allowances, thinking I was being understanding. But eventually, I realized I deserved someone who showed up, not someone who was always "just busy." Another tough one is 'Stop overreacting, she's just a friend.' While sometimes true, if this phrase is used to dismiss your genuine concerns or if boundaries feel consistently crossed, it’s a massive red flag. Understanding men's psychology here often involves recognizing that some use this to gaslight or hide deeper connections. It forces you to question your perception, which is a key manipulation tactic. So, what do you do once you've learned 'how to spot manipulation' and 'how to recognize manipulation'? Firstly, don't ignore your feelings. Your emotional well-being is paramount. Open communication is ideal, but only if the other person is receptive. If you try to express your concerns and are met with defensiveness, gaslighting, or repeated promises like 'I'll change I promise. Let's just work this out' without actual change, then it’s time to re-evaluate. This is where reflecting on your 'list of qualities in a partner' becomes vital. What are your non-negotiables? Do you value honesty, consistency, and respect? If these core values are consistently undermined by lies and manipulative behavior, then even if it's hard, it might be time to consider if you're truly getting what you deserve. Trusting your gut feeling and prioritizing your peace over placating someone else's dishonesty is the ultimate act of self-love. You deserve honesty, clarity, and genuine effort.
I've used the 1st one before and 3rd one mainly because I honestly didn't feel like replying to people that take days or weeks or even a month replying back to me so I started doing the same to certain friends and my then boyfriend (ex).