How to deal with "loss" with a heart that understands the world.

No one wants to lose...

Whether it's losing a loved one, losing health, losing your job, losing your property, or even losing your dream.

When losses occur, many can't help but ask:

"Why us?"

"Why is this happening?"

"What did we do wrong? Life gives such a hard lesson."

But the Buddha pointed out that instead of asking, "Why?"

Because most suffering is not caused by events alone, but by a heart that does not accept the truth, that things change.

He shows a principle that helps us deepen our understanding of life, called the moral world. 8

There are eight common things that no one can avoid, whether rich, famous, powerful or ordinary.

They are fortune, decay, rank, decay, praise, gossip, happiness, and suffering.

These eight belong to their world counterparts.

When there is one side, there is always another side.

Today is a fortune. The next day could be a fortune.

People admire it today. One day it could be blamed.

Happy today. Tomorrow may find suffering.

No one can take the side they like and reject the other.

Because the nature of the world has been like this since

The problem is not in the moral world.

But at our hearts.

When we make a fortune, we are so happy that we forget that it is unnecessary.

When we lose our fortune, we regret the end of our lives.

When people watch, we're narcissistic.

When people gossip, we suffer from eating and insomnia.

Indeed, the righteous world does not afflict.

But it is our attachment that makes the moral world a burden.

Notice that our lives are always like this.

There were days when everything went so smoothly that I thought it would be like this forever.

But soon something unexpected came in.

Some used to have stable businesses, but one day had to close.

Some were healthy, but they got sick.

Some used to have families with faces, but one day only memories remained.

When these events happen, we often think they are unusual.

But in the eyes of the Buddha, these things are common to the world.

What happened will change.

What comes together has separate days.

What is gained will have a day of loss.

Nothing lasts forever.

Even our own bodies must be old, hurt and extinguished in the end.

Understanding this fact, we will begin to look at the loss with a gentler eye.

We may still regret it.

Still crying

Still miss

But will not get caught up in suffering until forgetting to live.

Because we know that the loss does not happen to us alone.

But it is common to all life on earth.

The Buddha did not teach us to be insensitive.

But he taught to be conscious.

When sad, you know that sad is born.

When you're angry, you know you're angry.

When you think about it, you know that you're coming through.

Just know without relegation.

And not to say, "This is us."

Soon, that feeling will gradually change.

Like clouds floating through the sky

No clouds stay all day.

And no storms last a lifetime.

Many times we suffer because we try to contain things that are changing.

Like trying to hold a stream in your hand

The tighter the hold, the more water flows out.

And our hands are even more tired.

But when gradually loosening your hands,

We didn't make the water stop flowing.

We just stop hurting ourselves.

Letting go is therefore not a dislove.

But is to love without taking over.

Take care when there's still a chance

Thank you for still being together.

And accept when it's time to leave.

If you're facing a loss today,

Let's not just think that life is punishing you.

Perhaps life is taking us to understand a truth that no one can avoid.

Understanding the world 8, we will not indulge in receiving fortune.

Not narcissistic when praised.

Not out of value because of gossip

Not desperate when the fortune goes down.

Not stuck with happiness

And not caught up in suffering.

Because we know it's all just visitors.

Soon left.

The most important thing is not to make life without loss.

It's about training your mind to be stable in the midst of change.

When there is, I know there is.

When it's over, I know it's over.

When you get it, you don't get lost.

When broken, not broken.

This is the heart of living with wisdom.

And one day, the loss came again.

We may still have tears.

But in the tears there will be understanding.

An understanding that calms the heart gradually.

Look at the world realistically.

And move on strong.

Because those who understand the world 8

Will not leave happiness with something immortal

But leave life to consciousness and wisdom.

With such determination, no matter how the world changes, the heart can remain calm.

And that's true happiness.

Happiness that doesn't depend on getting or losing.

But caused by a heart that understands the world as a matter of fact.

# Dharma brought the heart home # Let go # Wake up knowing # Dharma world 8 # A reminder