As someone who tends to overthink and often finds myself explaining situations in great detail, I've noticed a recurring pattern: people often advise me not to over explain, yet rarely acknowledge the effort of being thorough. It's an interesting social paradox that many overthinkers can relate to. From personal experience, overexplaining stems from a desire to be understood fully and to preempt any confusion or miscommunication. However, this thoroughness is sometimes met with impatience or indifference. In fact, the phrase "don't over explain yourself" is a common admonition that often leaves us feeling misunderstood or undervalued. One way I've learned to balance this is by tailoring my explanations to the audience and context. For instance, when discussing complex topics with close friends or colleagues who appreciate detail, I don't hesitate to be thorough. But in casual conversations or situations where brevity is preferred, I try to convey the main points without excessive elaboration. Moreover, understanding that not everyone values or notices detailed communication helps manage expectations. It's okay to be thorough when it matters and concise when it's required. Ultimately, the goal is effective communication, not just the quantity of words. If you find yourself overexplaining too often, consider why you're doing it. Is it to clarify your point, avoid misunderstandings, or perhaps seek validation? Reflecting on this can help find a healthier communication balance. In summary, while overexplaining is often discouraged socially, it's a natural tendency for many, especially overthinkers, to be thorough. Understanding this dynamic can improve how we express ourselves and connect with others.