5 ways to see through "damn"

1. Distinguish "Emotional Dumping"

Sometimes we're just the closest "trash." Notice if his insults make sense to the level of anger? If a small but big bomb, it's highly likely that he might fight with someone at home, have a debt problem, or be pressured above again. Remember: His temper is rubbish he can't handle, not our badge.

2. Analyze the boss's "Attachment Style"

Some bosses are fundamentally frustrated because of their insecurity, they may be afraid of losing face or losing control, so they have to use insults to make themselves look powerful. When we see that "insults are a shield against their weakness," we stop being afraid and turn into pity.

3. Look for "needs that are not fulfilled."

Under bad words, he often hides some fears, such as that he insults about slow work. He may actually be "afraid of being reprimanded by the board of directors" or "afraid that the team is not targeted until the bonus is lost." When we see his fear, we will change the focus from being cursed to helping him solve problems to reduce that anxiety.

4. Use the "Mirroring" rule, observe personality.

Some bosses are extreme Perfectionists, who often insult themselves as hard as they insult their subordinates. Their insults against us may be because they have twisted standards and constantly pressure themselves. Understanding that "they are also in prison at their own standards" will help us not to harm their self-worth.

5. Set the "glass wall" in the heart.

When you start being cursed, imagine that there is a big mirror between you and him. Damn and negative emotions will hit the mirror and reflect back to himself. You only act as an "observer," keep the content of the work that needs to be fixed, and let the bad mood go back to the owner.

"A man who is truly happy and loves himself will not splash pain on others." If he insults you unreasonably, that is a sign that his heart is not strong enough.

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